Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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18 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Treatment and medication
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 34Grounding and settling 28What anger actually is 26Your nervous system 25Medication and how it works 25Systems for daily life 24Bringing the future closer 22The fear underneath anger 22Answering bids 22Get started 20Treatment and medication 18Your sense of time 17Equanimity and perspective 17Structure and routine 16Fondness and admiration 15Growing empathy 14Affection and touch 14Practising under provocation 14Making it stick 14Knowing your partner 14Repair after rupture 13Touch and bodywork 13Feelings and focus 12Getting assessed and diagnosed 11Food, caffeine and fuel 11The cost of avoiding 9Breathing 9Gratitude 9When everything feels flat 9Moving your body 9Exercise, food and other supports 9What ADHD actually is 8Being seen and judged 8Tolerate distress 8Listening and understanding 8Treatment and medication 8Remembering to do it 7Screens and attention 7Rituals of connection 6Shame and stigma 6Shared spiritual life 6What worry does 6What you are actually defending 6Feeling from the inside 5Rebuilding trust 5Shame 5Emotions as signals 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Self-compassion 4Question the thought 4Facing it a step at a time 3Safety and grounding 3Obsessions and compulsions 3When you use something to cope 3Name what you feel 3Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Patience and trust 2Calm the body 2Panic and the body 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Meaning after harm 2Validate yourself and others 2Let the wave come 2When anger turns to harm 2Working with anger 2Breaking the worry loop 2Your worth is not conditional 2Hold a boundary 2Ride the urge 2Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1Your window of tolerance 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Listen to the body 1When you go numb 1Care for yourself in loss 1Ask and say no well 1Act on your values 1Keep the bond 1Rest and pacing 1
When

The chapter a diagnosis sits in was decided by a committee, and the medicines did not rearrange themselves to match. When you are thinking about treatment, it helps to look past the name on the file to what the person is actually carrying.

Anxiety used to sit in one place in the manual and now sits in three, with trauma conditions and obsessive ones given rooms of their own. That…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 49:6

If something helped one part of your anxiety and did nothing for the rest, that is not proof it failed or that you are beyond help. Different parts of this run on different machinery.

The sudden bodily kind and the grinding thinking kind are handled by different systems, and a treatment that reaches one may have very little to grip…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Nothing you take can act on something that is not there to be acted on. It is a plain limit, and it explains a good deal of the disappointment people carry about treatment.

A medicine travels everywhere in the body and only does something where there is something for it to work through. So the question is not whether a…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 41:44

Something that settles a surge of panic within minutes and something that changes how often the surges come are doing two different jobs. A person can need both, and it helps to say which is which.

The fast option is a rescue. It works quickly, it is meant for the worst moments, and its usefulness is measured in that hour. The slower option is…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 38:42

Sedatives are good at damping the body down and much less good at quieting a mind that keeps going round. If the trouble is chronic worry, being made drowsy is not the same as being helped.

This is one of the commonest mismatches there is: something sedating given for grinding worry, leaving a person tired, foggy and still worrying.…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

Sleeping tablets, sedatives, antihistamines and alcohol all pull on the same brake. Whoever is prescribing needs the whole list, including the things that do not feel like medicine.

People rarely mention a nightly drink or a sleep aid bought off the shelf, because neither feels like part of the treatment. Together they can add up…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:286

If you do not know how much of something you are taking, you cannot tell whether it is helping you. That is the honest problem with most calming products bought off the shelf, quite apart from whether the ingredient works.

Testing of these products keeps turning up contents that do not match the label, sometimes including things the label never mentions. So a good week…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:36

With anything you use to take the edge off, note what you took and when, and how you felt a few hours later. Small changes in amount can turn the same substance from calming into the opposite.

Cannabis is the clearest example. Strength and make up vary enormously between products, a small amount often settles people, and a larger amount…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

If you have been given a drug from one category for a problem in another, it is fair to ask which part of it is doing the work. Often the useful effect is a side effect that has been borrowed.

The common example is an antipsychotic given in a small dose for sleep, where the drowsiness comes from its antihistamine action rather than from…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 21:7

A small dose that has not changed in years is not automatically something to fix. Stopping carries risks of its own, and they have to be weighed rather than assumed away.

Coming off can bring withdrawal, a rebound of the original anxiety, and worse if it is done abruptly. Set against the risks of staying on, which are…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 39:53

Plenty of people carry a tablet for years and almost never take it. What it is mostly doing is reassurance, and that is worth knowing about it.

Being able to reach for it is what makes the shop or the motorway bearable, which is a real help and a quiet cost at the same time. The cost is that…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:186

How well something works in the moment and whether it is right for the long run are two separate questions. Fast relief is extremely convincing, which is exactly why it is worth pausing over.

When something reliably ends the worst feeling within twenty minutes, what your body learns is to reach for it sooner next time. That is not…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 21:84

Saying that you do not know, and then showing where you would look, beats an answer improvised on the spot. It also teaches the person asking how to check things for themselves.

Name the limit, name the source you would go to, and offer to come back with what you find. Systematic reviews and an ordinary scholarly search will…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:43

One medicine can reach both the surging kind of anxiety and the circling kind, while another really only touches the surging kind. That is why the slower and broader option is usually the one people are started on.

It explains a pattern that looks arbitrary from the outside. The broad option is unglamorous: nothing happens on the first day and it takes weeks to…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:82

Making someone calmer is not the same as treating what is making them anxious. Obsessive worry is the clearest case: something sedating can take the edge off the distress and leave whatever drives it completely untouched.

You can see it in the shape of the day. The person is quieter, slower, maybe sleeping better, and the same thought arrives just as often as it did.…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

These medicines work on a timescale of four to six weeks, not days. Say the number out loud at the start, because someone expecting relief this week will have decided by Friday that it failed.

Something does happen on the first day, but it is only the first step of a change that takes weeks to finish. The useful version of this is a date:…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:114

Describe what the first fortnight might feel like before the first tablet, not after the first worried phone call. A warning given in advance turns a bad week into a milestone.

The wording can be plain. Some people feel more wound up for the first week or ten days, it usually passes, and nobody changes anything without…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:87

There is an older antihistamine used for anxiety that works by making you drowsy and carries no risk of dependence. It suits a rough stretch, and it is a bridge rather than somewhere to settle.

The costs are the ordinary antihistamine ones: dry mouth, constipation, and for older people a genuine risk of confusion and falls, with effects on…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:184

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