Practices

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Validate yourself and others A minute Clear all

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 1 On my own 1

Theme · Validate yourself and others

Staying regulated in conflict 46 The moment before you snap 39 Choosing your response 36 Cool the body first 34 Grounding and settling 28 What anger actually is 26 Your nervous system 25 Medication and how it works 25 Systems for daily life 24 The fear underneath anger 22 Bringing the future closer 22 Answering bids 22 Get started 20 Treatment and medication 18 Equanimity and perspective 17 Your sense of time 17 Structure and routine 16 Fondness and admiration 15 Making it stick 14 Practising under provocation 14 Growing empathy 14 Affection and touch 14 Knowing your partner 14 Touch and bodywork 13 Repair after rupture 13 Feelings and focus 12 Getting assessed and diagnosed 11 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Exercise, food and other supports 9 Breathing 9 Gratitude 9 The cost of avoiding 9 When everything feels flat 9 Moving your body 9 Tolerate distress 8 Being seen and judged 8 Listening and understanding 8 Treatment and medication 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Screens and attention 7 Remembering to do it 7 What worry does 6 Shared spiritual life 6 What you are actually defending 6 Rituals of connection 6 Shame and stigma 6 Shame 5 Emotions as signals 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Feeling from the inside 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Self-compassion 4 Question the thought 4 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 When you use something to cope 3 Safety and grounding 3 Name what you feel 3 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Meaning after harm 2 Panic and the body 2 Patience and trust 2 Let the wave come 2 Ride the urge 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Hold a boundary 2 Validate yourself and others 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Working with anger 2 Breaking the worry loop 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Calm the body 2 When you go numb 1 Ask and say no well 1 Listen to the body 1 Act on your values 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Keep the bond 1 Rest and pacing 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Get it out of your head 1 Help someone grieving 1 Your window of tolerance 1

When

After a row 1 Under stress 1

Before you fix or argue, validate: that makes sense, I can see why you feel that. It cools the heat.

People calm down when they feel understood, not corrected. Understanding first, solutions later.

A minuteValidate yourself and othersDBT skillsQur’an 41:34

Validate your own feeling first: of course this stung. You do not need permission to feel it.

Do not add self-blame on top of a hard feeling. Let it be real, then decide what to do.

A minuteValidate yourself and othersDBT skillsQur’an 20:25

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