Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Area

Focus, starting, and ADHD 231Your body 75 Anger 59 Worry and anxiety 38 Low mood and hard feelings 31 Your marriage 28 After harm 2 Grief and loss 2

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 811Five minutes 1388Twenty minutes 466Longer 182

Who it is written for

A practitioner 425Me 380Someone I care about 304My husband or wife 57

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 265Struggling right now 118Getting ready for something 83

On your own, or with someone

On my own 264Involves someone else 126Both of us together 76

Theme

Systems for daily life 38 Medication and how it works 30 Moving your body 26 Treatment and medication 19 Screens and attention 18 Getting assessed and diagnosed 17 What ADHD actually is 17 Get started 17 Feelings and focus 16 The cost of avoiding 15 Your nervous system 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Your sense of time 10 Exercise, food and other supports 10 What anger actually is 10 Bringing the future closer 9 Touch and bodywork 8 The moment before you snap 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Grounding and settling 6 Cool the body first 6 Emotions as signals 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 The fear underneath anger 6 Shame 6 Tolerate distress 6 Facing it a step at a time 5 Shame and stigma 5 Breathing 5 Remembering to do it 5 Staying regulated in conflict 5 When everything feels flat 5 When you use something to cope 5 Righteous anger and perfectionism 4 Repair after rupture 4 Choosing your response 4 What worry does 4 Growing empathy 4 When anger turns to harm 4 Being seen and judged 4 Rituals of connection 4 Knowing your partner 3 Making it stick 3 Use your strengths 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Structure and routine 3 Practising under provocation 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 Equanimity and perspective 3 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Letting it out safely 2 Answering bids 2 Listen to the body 1 What you are actually defending 1 Question the thought 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Rest and pacing 1 Safety and grounding 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Treatment and medication 1 Keep the bond 1

Approach

ADHD skills 142Medical and treatment 100Core 58 CBT 54 Body based 42 Gottman 24 Emotionally focused 12 Mindfulness 11 Trauma informed 8 DBT skills 6 Grief 4 Narrative 3 Parts work 2

When

Any ordinary day 342Under stress 50 In a change 27 After a row 25 Coming and going 16 When apart 4 Something good 2

Deep rest needs a dose like anything else. If a long daily relaxation is leaving you flatter each week rather than steadier, make it shorter.

Someone can start a forty day programme of long guided rest with the best intentions and find that by the second week they are sinking instead of…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 25:47

If you are the person who steadies every room, ask yourself when a room last steadied you.

Some people are very good at this because they were handed the job at six years old, in a house where somebody had to keep everyone level. It becomes…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 28:73

Real rest, closeness and unhurried prayer all ask for the same thing: being still while feeling safe. That is harder than it sounds if stillness has ever been dangerous.

It is why some people cope beautifully in a crisis and find a quiet evening unbearable, and why intimacy and slow worship are often the last things…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 78:10

If you cannot feel your own state yet, a device that shows it on a screen can stand in until you can.

Ear clips and phone apps that display your heart rhythm turn something invisible into a light changing colour, and for people who have spent years…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 2:260

If a practice feels like homework you are failing at, turn it into a game. Some feedback tools do this for you, bringing colour and birdsong to a grey screen as your heart rhythm settles.

Trying hard to relax is a trap. The effort keeps you keyed up, and then you have one more thing to be bad at. Play sidesteps that entirely. It is the…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 16:78

You do not need other people to reach a settled state. Breath, a slow walk somewhere green, a cat asleep on your lap: all of them get you there.

The name social engagement system makes it sound as though company is the only door, which is bleak if you are isolated, and worse if people are the…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 2:22

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.