Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

Answering bids Twenty minutes Clear all

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 22 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 2 Me 2

Theme · Answering bids

Systems for daily life 38 Medication and how it works 30 Moving your body 26 Treatment and medication 19 Screens and attention 18 Get started 17 What ADHD actually is 17 Getting assessed and diagnosed 17 Feelings and focus 16 The cost of avoiding 15 Your nervous system 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Your sense of time 10 Exercise, food and other supports 10 What anger actually is 10 Bringing the future closer 9 The moment before you snap 8 Touch and bodywork 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Cool the body first 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Emotions as signals 6 Grounding and settling 6 The fear underneath anger 6 Tolerate distress 6 Shame 6 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Breathing 5 Remembering to do it 5 When everything feels flat 5 Shame and stigma 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 When you use something to cope 5 Rituals of connection 4 When anger turns to harm 4 Being seen and judged 4 Choosing your response 4 Growing empathy 4 What worry does 4 Repair after rupture 4 Righteous anger and perfectionism 4 Practising under provocation 3 Making it stick 3 Knowing your partner 3 Use your strengths 3 Equanimity and perspective 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 Structure and routine 3 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Letting it out safely 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Answering bids 2 Keep the bond 1 Listen to the body 1 Question the thought 1 Rest and pacing 1 Safety and grounding 1 Treatment and medication 1 Living with uncertainty 1 What you are actually defending 1 Care for yourself in loss 1

When

Any ordinary day 1 Under stress 1

Once today, ask about a stress from outside the two of you, then just listen. No fixing.

Twenty minutes on their side. Your only job is to understand and be on their team.

Twenty minutesAnswering bidsGottmanQur’an 30:21

Once a day, take turns unloading the day's outside stress while the other just listens and supports, not fixes.

Ten minutes each on stress from beyond the relationship. The listener gives empathy, not solutions.

Twenty minutesAnswering bidsGottmanQur’an 5:2

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