Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Righteous anger and perfectionism Twenty minutes Clear all

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 2 Five minutes 11 Twenty minutes 4

Who it is written for

A practitioner 4 Me 3 Someone I care about 2

On your own, or with someone

On my own 3 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Righteous anger and perfectionism

Systems for daily life 38 Medication and how it works 30 Moving your body 26 Treatment and medication 19 Screens and attention 18 Getting assessed and diagnosed 17 Get started 17 What ADHD actually is 17 Feelings and focus 16 The cost of avoiding 15 Your nervous system 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 What anger actually is 10 Your sense of time 10 Exercise, food and other supports 10 Bringing the future closer 9 The moment before you snap 8 Touch and bodywork 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Tolerate distress 6 Cool the body first 6 The fear underneath anger 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Grounding and settling 6 Shame 6 Emotions as signals 6 Remembering to do it 5 Shame and stigma 5 When everything feels flat 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 When you use something to cope 5 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Breathing 5 When anger turns to harm 4 Being seen and judged 4 Choosing your response 4 Growing empathy 4 Repair after rupture 4 Righteous anger and perfectionism 4 Rituals of connection 4 What worry does 4 Practising under provocation 3 Structure and routine 3 Equanimity and perspective 3 Use your strengths 3 Making it stick 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 Knowing your partner 3 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Letting it out safely 2 Answering bids 2 What you are actually defending 1 Rest and pacing 1 Keep the bond 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Safety and grounding 1 Question the thought 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Treatment and medication 1 Listen to the body 1

If you carry a firm picture of how the world is supposed to work, the world will break it several times a day. No coping skill outpaces a supply of grievance that never runs out.

This is not a case for caring less about fairness. It is about telling apart an injustice you could act on from the general refusal of life to be…

Twenty minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 3:104

Someone who holds themselves to an exact standard will often hear a gentle correction as an attack. With them the useful thing is timing: build some trust before you offer the other way of seeing it.

The reframe you have ready is probably right and probably too early. Consistency matters enormously to this person, so an alternative view is not…

Twenty minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 16:125

Anger runs on the word should, and should is a word about debt. Write out what you believe this person owes you, then mark which of those they ever actually agreed to.

Most lists come out in two parts. There are the real agreements, said out loud and accepted, and there are the ones you assumed any decent person…

Twenty minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 4:58

Anger sticks around because it works, at least in the short run. Before trying to put it down, be honest about what it has been buying you.

Usually it is some form of leverage: people move faster, back down, stop asking. Sometimes it is plainer than that, a way to feel like something…

Twenty minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 9:105

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