Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices

Shared spiritual life Twenty minutes Clear all

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 6 Five minutes 4 Twenty minutes 7

Who it is written for

Me 7 My husband or wife 7

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 6 On my own 1

Theme · Shared spiritual life

Systems for daily life 38 Medication and how it works 30 Moving your body 26 Treatment and medication 19 Screens and attention 18 Getting assessed and diagnosed 17 Get started 17 What ADHD actually is 17 Feelings and focus 16 The cost of avoiding 15 Your nervous system 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 What anger actually is 10 Your sense of time 10 Exercise, food and other supports 10 Bringing the future closer 9 The moment before you snap 8 Touch and bodywork 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Tolerate distress 6 Cool the body first 6 The fear underneath anger 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Grounding and settling 6 Shame 6 Emotions as signals 6 Remembering to do it 5 Shame and stigma 5 When everything feels flat 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 When you use something to cope 5 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Breathing 5 When anger turns to harm 4 Being seen and judged 4 Choosing your response 4 Growing empathy 4 Repair after rupture 4 Righteous anger and perfectionism 4 Rituals of connection 4 What worry does 4 Practising under provocation 3 Structure and routine 3 Equanimity and perspective 3 Use your strengths 3 Making it stick 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 Knowing your partner 3 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Letting it out safely 2 Answering bids 2 What you are actually defending 1 Rest and pacing 1 Keep the bond 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Safety and grounding 1 Question the thought 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Treatment and medication 1 Listen to the body 1

Approach

Gottman 6 Core 1

Ask your spouse about a dream they hold for their life, and one small way you could back it.

Not a task for this week. A hope for their life. Knowing it, and helping toward it, joins two lives.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 5:2

Take one concrete action this week toward a goal your spouse cares about.

Watch the kids so they can study. Make the call they dread. Move their dream one inch.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 5:2

Talk with your spouse about what your roles at home mean to each of you, not just who does what.

Not a chore chart. What providing, nurturing, or protecting means to you underneath.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 66:6

Name one goal you are building toward together, and say it out loud as ours.

The home, the children's upbringing, a habit of worship. Something you are making together.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 25:74

Agree with your spouse on one value you want your home to stand for, and live it this week.

Generosity, honesty, patience, prayer. Pick one, name it, and let it show in the house.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 20:132

Tell your children, or each other, one good part of your story of us.

How you met, a hard thing you got through, why you are proud of this we. Say it aloud.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 30:21

Wake gently for a prayer together at night, even once this week.

A shared moment turned toward God, in the quiet of the night, binds two hearts to something larger than themselves.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

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