Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

43 practices

The moment before you snap Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have

A minute 17 Five minutes 19 Twenty minutes 5 Longer 2

Who it is written for

Me 43 A practitioner 39 Someone I care about 14 My husband or wife 4

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 43 Struggling right now 27 Getting ready for something 18

On your own, or with someone

On my own 39 Involves someone else 3 Both of us together 1

Theme · The moment before you snap

Medication and how it works 104Systems for daily life 70 Getting assessed and diagnosed 63 Your nervous system 61 What anger actually is 60 Staying regulated in conflict 60 Moving your body 48 Get started 48 Equanimity and perspective 46 Choosing your response 44 The moment before you snap 43 Bringing the future closer 43 The fear underneath anger 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Your sense of time 40 Treatment and medication 39 Feelings and focus 38 Touch and bodywork 38 Screens and attention 32 When everything feels flat 32 What ADHD actually is 30 Growing empathy 28 Grounding and settling 27 The cost of avoiding 26 Structure and routine 26 Knowing your partner 25 Answering bids 24 Food, caffeine and fuel 24 What worry does 23 Practising under provocation 22 Cool the body first 20 What you are actually defending 20 Emotions as signals 20 Treatment and medication 20 Breathing 19 Repair after rupture 19 Making it stick 19 Being seen and judged 18 Shared spiritual life 17 Rebuilding trust 17 Righteous anger and perfectionism 16 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Shame and stigma 14 Breaking the worry loop 14 Rituals of connection 13 Remembering to do it 13 Listening and understanding 13 Feeling from the inside 12 When you use something to cope 11 When anger turns to harm 11 Tolerate distress 10 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Gratitude 9 Facing it a step at a time 9 Self-compassion 8 Use your strengths 8 Obsessions and compulsions 6 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Meaning after harm 4 Safety and grounding 4 Let the wave come 3 Shame 3 Act on your values 3 Panic and the body 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Name what you feel 3 Calm the body 3 Listen to the body 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Rest and pacing 2 Work with your brain 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Patience and trust 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Face it gently 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ride the urge 2 Ask and say no well 2 When you go numb 1 Living with uncertainty 1

Approach

Core 22 Mindfulness 18 CBT 3

When

Any ordinary day 25 Under stress 14 After a row 4

Even one go at this leaves you with something. You have seen for yourself that the anger can be handled, and that does not expire when you walk out of the room.

The picture is not killing the anger off. It is closer to getting a big animal under control and walking it home: still strong, still yours, going…

Twenty minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 42:37

The alarm stores as well as reacts. Every flare that ends badly teaches it a little, and so does every one you handle gently.

That is why triggers pile up over a lifetime, and why one calm response never feels like it changed anything. It is doing work you cannot see yet.…

LongerThe moment before you snapCoreQur’an 41:34

This started as a way to stop yourself snapping, and it will do that. It also happens to be a way of noticing your whole life while you are in it.

The same watching works on wanting, on worrying, on the hour you lose to your phone. Anger is just the doorway you came in through, usually because…

LongerThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 13:11

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