Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices

Anger, alcohol and the body Coping, mostly Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 1

Who it is written for

Me 6 A practitioner 6 Someone I care about 6

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 6 Struggling right now 1 Getting ready for something 1

Theme · Anger, alcohol and the body

Medication and how it works 104Systems for daily life 70 Getting assessed and diagnosed 63 Your nervous system 61 Staying regulated in conflict 60 What anger actually is 60 Get started 48 Moving your body 48 Equanimity and perspective 46 Choosing your response 44 Bringing the future closer 43 The moment before you snap 43 The fear underneath anger 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Your sense of time 40 Treatment and medication 39 Touch and bodywork 38 Feelings and focus 38 Screens and attention 32 When everything feels flat 32 What ADHD actually is 30 Growing empathy 28 Grounding and settling 27 Structure and routine 26 The cost of avoiding 26 Knowing your partner 25 Food, caffeine and fuel 24 Answering bids 24 What worry does 23 Practising under provocation 22 Treatment and medication 20 Emotions as signals 20 What you are actually defending 20 Cool the body first 20 Making it stick 19 Repair after rupture 19 Breathing 19 Being seen and judged 18 Rebuilding trust 17 Shared spiritual life 17 Righteous anger and perfectionism 16 Affection and touch 15 Fondness and admiration 15 Shame and stigma 14 Breaking the worry loop 14 Listening and understanding 13 Remembering to do it 13 Rituals of connection 13 Feeling from the inside 12 When you use something to cope 11 When anger turns to harm 11 Reading, numbers and learning differences 10 Tolerate distress 10 Gratitude 9 Facing it a step at a time 9 Self-compassion 8 Use your strengths 8 Obsessions and compulsions 6 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 5 Meaning after harm 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Safety and grounding 4 Let the wave come 3 Calm the body 3 Act on your values 3 Name what you feel 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Panic and the body 3 Shame 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Work with your brain 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ask and say no well 2 Ride the urge 2 Rest and pacing 2 Patience and trust 2 Listen to the body 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Help someone grieving 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Living with uncertainty 1 When you go numb 1

When

Any ordinary day 5 After a row 1

You are right that the first drink takes the edge off. That is exactly what makes it hard, and pretending otherwise would only be untrue.

The calm is real at a small amount and it turns on you as the amount climbs, which is why the argument at eleven at night bears no resemblance to the…

A minuteAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:219

Alcohol does not add anger. It takes off the brake. Stimulants do the opposite job and press harder on the accelerator, and having both in you at once is the worst arrangement of the two.

What drink takes first is the part that holds you back, which is why nothing feels different from the inside. You are not angrier, there is simply…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:43

The strongest pull is not the anger by itself. It is anger plus being right, the lift in the body and the certainty of the moral high ground arriving together.

That pairing is genuinely hard to put down, because giving it up means giving up more than a mood. It means not being the wronged one for a while.…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:53

Hormones are part of this for everyone, not only for men and not only in adolescence. If your flares seem to arrive with a rhythm, that rhythm is worth writing down.

Episodes that look random from close up often turn out to have a shape once there is a record of them: a point in a monthly cycle, a change of…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 32:9

Anger has a chemistry of its own. There is nothing to pour down the sink and nobody to stop selling it to you, which is why letting it go feels like losing something rather than putting something down.

The lift is real. Heat, clarity, energy, a body that suddenly knows exactly what to do. Take that away and leave a gap where it was, and within a…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

Sleep, food, illness and the run of stress you have been carrying set the height of your fuse before anything has even happened. Sort those out and you are simply a calmer person that week, with no insight required.

This is the cheapest work available and it is nearly always skipped, because it feels too obvious to count. Notice when your worst moments land: late…

LongerAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 78:9

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