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Anger
Almost nobody wants to be the person who says the thing they cannot take back. The window between the surge and the words is short and it can be widened. That is most of what this area is about, along with the fear or hurt that anger is usually protecting.
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2 practicesTheme · Growing empathy
Approach · CBT
When · Any ordinary day
If you keep saying yes and then feeling furious about it, the problem may not be that you care too much. Often it is that you cannot bear anyone being displeased with you.
The two look identical from outside and they need completely different answers. Genuine feeling for someone is warm and tiring. Fear of disapproval…
If it really is that you feel too much for people, the useful move is not more feeling. It is learning to say no while still meaning them well.
Naming your softness as something that gets used is what makes a limit bearable to set. You are not becoming colder. You are stopping the slow build…