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What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.
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When · Something good
Be the first person your spouse wants to tell good news to, by delighting when they do.
Meet their small wins with real, curious gladness, so you stay their first call.
When they share good news, ask a question about it.
The next time your spouse tells you something good, do not just say "that's great." Ask about it. How did it happen? What did you say? How did it…
Let them tell the good story twice.
Sharing a joy and being met with delight makes the joy larger and the bond warmer.
Mark one milestone together this month, however small, rather than letting it pass.
The anniversary, the finished project, the hard season survived. Pause and honour it.