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Yourself and your limits

Saying no, asking for something, and holding a line are skills, not personality. So is speaking to yourself the way you would speak to someone you love.

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Theme · Ask and say no well

Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Ask and say no well 2 Validate yourself and others 2 Hold a boundary 2

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1

Be firm and warm at once: gentle tone, steady eyes, clear ask. Neither doormat nor bulldozer.

Softness of manner and firmness of content are not opposites. Hold the point kindly.

A minuteAsk and say no wellDBT skillsQur’an 31:19

Ask plainly: name the facts, say how you feel, say what you want, in a few clear sentences.

Drop the hinting. State the situation, your feeling, and the request. Clear is kind.

Five minutesAsk and say no wellDBT skillsQur’an 17:53