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Yourself and your limits
Saying no, asking for something, and holding a line are skills, not personality. So is speaking to yourself the way you would speak to someone you love.
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2 practicesTheme · Validate yourself and others
Before you fix or argue, validate: that makes sense, I can see why you feel that. It cools the heat.
People calm down when they feel understood, not corrected. Understanding first, solutions later.
Validate your own feeling first: of course this stung. You do not need permission to feel it.
Do not add self-blame on top of a hard feeling. Let it be real, then decide what to do.