Areas › Focus, starting, and ADHD › Getting assessed and diagnosed
Some of what looks like muddle is the system's fault. Our tenth month is named for eight, because two months were added later and nobody renamed the rest.
Worth saying to anyone who feels stupid about dates and forms. A calendar whose numbers are out of step, a tax year starting in April, forms asking for a date in three different formats: none of it was designed for a memory working under pressure. Handing the blame back to the system is a small move, and it changes how much of the difficulty a person carries as a personal fault.
Qur’an and Sunnah
And ease my task for me (Quran 20:26). Moses asks for the task to be made lighter rather than for himself to be made tougher, which is a fair thing to want from a form.
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
What the research says
A systematic review of ADHD and procrastination found the pattern turning up alongside ADHD again and again, while stating that the mechanisms behind the association are not settled. Difficulties around time are well observed and less well explained. That is a reason to be modest about explanations and practical about the remedy, which here is mostly to stop treating the person as the problem.
Suriano R. (2026). A systematic review on the association between ADHD and procrastination.. Research in developmental disabilities doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Why it works
Shame goes down when the difficulty is put where it actually belongs.
This one is still a draft. It is waiting on a scholar and a clinician to read it before it is published.
Near this one
Ask what they think this will cost them in effort, then say what you think. People rarely give up because a strategy failed. They give up because it turned out to be harder than anyone had told them.
Autism and ADHD share some surface features and are still two different things. The social difficulty in each arrives by a different road.
The family history is not the warm up before the real assessment. Give it proper time and it will often tell you more than any single rating scale in the folder.