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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Area
Focus, starting, and ADHD 95Anger 28Low mood and hard feelings 9Worry and anxiety 9Your body 7
How long you have
A minute 20Five minutes 68Twenty minutes 44Longer 16
Who it is written for · Me
A practitioner 237Me 148Someone I care about 128My husband or wife 54
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 81Struggling right now 43Getting ready for something 24
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
On my own 1888Involves someone else 419Both of us together 148
Theme
Medication and how it works 26Getting assessed and diagnosed 18Systems for daily life 15Feelings and focus 14Emotions as signals 7Practising under provocation 7Growing empathy 7Treatment and medication 6Bringing the future closer 5Being seen and judged 5Equanimity and perspective 4Screens and attention 3Your sense of time 3Facing it a step at a time 3What anger actually is 3Moving your body 2Get started 2What ADHD actually is 2Cool the body first 2Touch and bodywork 2The moment before you snap 2Grounding and settling 2When everything feels flat 1Use your strengths 1Shame 1The fear underneath anger 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Obsessions and compulsions 1Your nervous system 1Choosing your response 1
Approach
ADHD skills 61Medical and treatment 35CBT 19Core 8Body based 8Emotionally focused 7Mindfulness 5Narrative 2Parts work 1Gottman 1Trauma informed 1
When
Any ordinary day 96After a row 25Under stress 9Coming and going 8In a change 6When apart 4

People who are sleeping properly, eating properly and moving a bit tend to want each other more. The unglamorous parts of life management run closer to the bedroom than either of you might expect.

It is worth saying out loud when desire has quietly gone from a marriage, because the usual explanations reach for something heavier: he has lost…

LongerTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185

A relationship with no friction in it can leave an ADHD partner restless rather than content. A bit of heat is not the same as a bad marriage. What matters is what happens afterwards.

Plenty of couples decide that any argument means something is broken, and then start managing each other into blandness, which nobody enjoys. The…

Five minutesUse your strengthsADHD skillsQur’an 2:148

Relationships take a lot of the strain here, and the usual shape is one person quietly carrying all the planning while the other feels constantly told off. Both halves are worth naming out loud before resentment sets hard.

The practical work is splitting the load by what each of you is actually good at rather than down the middle, and putting the shared admin somewhere…

Twenty minutesWhat ADHD actually isADHD skillsQur’an 11:118

ADHD reaches into a marriage in ways couples rarely say out loud: attention drifting during a conversation that mattered, or a partner who has started to feel like an unpaid manager. It is a fair thing to talk about and to get help with.

The hurt usually comes from what each of you concludes rather than from the behaviour itself. One reads distraction as not being loved, the other…

Twenty minutesWhat ADHD actually isADHD skillsQur’an 11:118

When somebody says they were not scared, they just do not like being disrespected, take the dislike seriously. We dislike what threatens us, and that is why we avoid it.

The move keeps everyone's dignity intact. You are not telling a person they were frightened, you are pointing out that disliking something and being…

Five minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 70:20

There is a difference between being afraid and being seen as afraid, and it is usually the second one people are defending. Worth asking which of the two is actually the problem.

Once somebody can say the trouble is what others would make of it, the whole reputational job anger has been doing comes into view. Often the belief…

Five minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 12:53

Your family had its own rules about anger, quite apart from anything cultural. Those are the ones that shaped you, and they can be renegotiated.

Name two of them plainly. Nobody leaves the table. Whoever shouts loudest wins. We do not mention it the next day. Then ask which you still want.…

Twenty minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 2:263

Connection settles people, but the right amount of it varies enormously. Some settle with a house full of family and some with one person and no talking at all.

If closeness costs you something, plan around that rather than pushing through. Shorter visits, sitting side by side instead of face to face, a walk…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 2:260

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