Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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4 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
Theme · Growing empathy
You can drop the neuroscience and keep the instruction. Look at the person's face, and at their eyes in particular, and let what you see land on you.
The advice does not need a mechanism to be worth following. Look at the person while they are speaking instead of at your own next sentence. Let…
When someone is telling you something hard, quietly let your body come closer to theirs. Similar posture, similar pace, your voice at their volume rather than your own.
Do it lightly. This is not an impression, and if it looks like one it will land as mockery. A small shift is plenty: leaning in when they lean in,…
You can feel for the child in front of you and still keep the consequence you set. Being moved was never meant to be the thing that decides.
It happens to everybody. You are firm, then you see the crumpled face, something turns over in you, and the consequence quietly disappears. What the…
When you notice you have stopped really being there with someone, change your body before you try to change your effort. Sit forward, unfold your arms, turn to face them properly.
Attention goes late in the day, and trying harder to care rarely brings it back. Moving does. Feet planted, hands open, shoulders squared to them,…
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