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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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7 practices
Growing empathy remove filterCoping, mostly remove filterBoth of us together remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 4Five minutes 1Longer 2
Who it is written for
A practitioner 6Me 5Someone I care about 3My husband or wife 3
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Coping, mostly 7Struggling right now 2
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
On my own 15Both of us together 7Involves someone else 6
Theme · Growing empathy
Getting assessed and diagnosed 30Medication and how it works 18Systems for daily life 7Emotions as signals 7Growing empathy 7What anger actually is 7Reading, numbers and learning differences 6When anger turns to harm 6Touch and bodywork 6Bringing the future closer 5Treatment and medication 5The cost of avoiding 5Feelings and focus 5Equanimity and perspective 4Being seen and judged 4Screens and attention 3Obsessions and compulsions 2Your sense of time 2Shame 2What ADHD actually is 2The fear underneath anger 2Practising under provocation 2Exercise, food and other supports 2Moving your body 2When everything feels flat 2Get started 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Making it stick 1Your nervous system 1What you are actually defending 1Cool the body first 1Use your strengths 1The moment before you snap 1Structure and routine 1Grounding and settling 1
Approach
Body based 6Medical and treatment 1
When
Any ordinary day 6After a row 1

You can drop the neuroscience and keep the instruction. Look at the person's face, and at their eyes in particular, and let what you see land on you.

The advice does not need a mechanism to be worth following. Look at the person while they are speaking instead of at your own next sentence. Let…

A minuteGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 28:23

When someone is telling you something hard, quietly let your body come closer to theirs. Similar posture, similar pace, your voice at their volume rather than your own.

Do it lightly. This is not an impression, and if it looks like one it will land as mockery. A small shift is plenty: leaning in when they lean in,…

A minuteGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 2:263

You can feel for the child in front of you and still keep the consequence you set. Being moved was never meant to be the thing that decides.

It happens to everybody. You are firm, then you see the crumpled face, something turns over in you, and the consequence quietly disappears. What the…

A minuteGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 2:220

When you notice you have stopped really being there with someone, change your body before you try to change your effort. Sit forward, unfold your arms, turn to face them properly.

Attention goes late in the day, and trying harder to care rarely brings it back. Moving does. Feet planted, hands open, shoulders squared to them,…

A minuteGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 3:159

Repeating back what your partner said proves you were listening. It does not prove you were touched by it, and they can tell the difference.

Reflective listening can be done perfectly and still land cold, because the words check the content while your face and body report that nothing…

Five minutesGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 21:107

Two people who spend time in step really do become more attuned. Nothing passes between your brains while it happens, though, so put the hours in rather than waiting for the wiring.

The phrase about brains wiring together is a picture, and a lovely one. What is actually available to you is ordinary: the same room, the same walk…

LongerGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 7:156

Closeness arrives much faster in a small group that keeps meeting than in a wide circle you see now and then. If you want to feel less alone, pick the small thing that repeats.

Six people who show up every Tuesday and say something real will know each other within a couple of months. Sixty acquaintances will not. It does not…

LongerGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 90:17

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