Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
2 practicesWho it is written for · My husband or wife
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · Gratitude
Staying regulated in conflict 24Knowing your partner 15Affection and touch 13Rebuilding trust 12Listening and understanding 12Answering bids 11Repair after rupture 11Rituals of connection 11Shared spiritual life 10Emotions as signals 7What anger actually is 4Remembering to do it 4Your nervous system 3Bringing the future closer 2Fondness and admiration 2Gratitude 2Your sense of time 2Shame 2The moment before you snap 2What you are actually defending 2Equanimity and perspective 2When you go numb 1Growing empathy 1Treatment and medication 1Systems for daily life 1Choosing your response 1Practising under provocation 1Feelings and focus 1
Praise a quality of their character, not only something they did.
To be admired for who you are, not just what you produced, is a rare and steadying gift.
Catch your partner doing something right, and thank them for it, specifically, on the spot.
Notice the small good things and say thanks. Appreciation given often keeps goodwill flowing.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.