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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Emotions as signals Someone I care about Involves someone else Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 3

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

My husband or wife 7 A practitioner 7 Someone I care about 4 Me 3

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 3 Struggling right now 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

Both of us together 4 Involves someone else 4

Theme · Emotions as signals

Medication and how it works 40 Systems for daily life 35 The cost of avoiding 34 Screens and attention 25 Moving your body 21 Treatment and medication 18 Exercise, food and other supports 13 What ADHD actually is 12 Feelings and focus 11 Your sense of time 11 Breaking the worry loop 11 Your nervous system 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 What anger actually is 9 What worry does 9 Structure and routine 9 Grounding and settling 8 Facing it a step at a time 8 Get started 6 Choosing your response 6 Reading, numbers and learning differences 6 Shame and stigma 5 Breathing 5 When you use something to cope 5 Bringing the future closer 5 The moment before you snap 5 Getting assessed and diagnosed 4 Equanimity and perspective 4 Emotions as signals 4 Making it stick 3 Remembering to do it 3 When everything feels flat 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Cool the body first 3 Tolerate distress 2 Growing empathy 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Help someone grieving 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 The fear underneath anger 2 What you are actually defending 2 Rest and pacing 1 Practising under provocation 1 Being seen and judged 1

When

After a row 2 Any ordinary day 2

When someone goes quiet and you can see they have gone inside, that is not your moment to help. Stay still and let the silence run.

You will feel the pull to summarise, to check they are alright, to bring the other person back in. All of it lands as an interruption. Give it a few…

A minuteEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 50:16

When someone finally gets one true word out about how they feel, resist explaining it to them. Ask what that word is like from the inside and let them find the rest.

The temptation is to say the clever thing: of course you felt rejected, anyone would. It is often accurate and it usually ends the moment, because…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 3:29

If a conversation has wandered off and you have lost the thread, go back to the last thing that had real feeling in it, and go back using the words they used.

Not a summary of those words. The actual phrase: 'you said she has her standards and you will never meet them, and your eyes went red when you said…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 21:83

You do not have to reflect back everything a person just told you. Pick up the part that carries the weight and say that much.

A long, careful summary can flatten what someone has just risked saying. If the heart of it is that he feels defeated and frightened of never being…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 15:97

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