Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices

Growing empathy Five minutes Involves someone else Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 4

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 Me 3 My husband or wife 1 Someone I care about 1

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 2 Struggling right now 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 9 Involves someone else 3 Both of us together 2

Theme · Growing empathy

Medication and how it works 43 The cost of avoiding 15 Screens and attention 13 Systems for daily life 12 What anger actually is 10 Your nervous system 8 Your sense of time 8 Exercise, food and other supports 8 Moving your body 8 Bringing the future closer 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Rebuilding trust 8 What worry does 7 Treatment and medication 7 Facing it a step at a time 7 Knowing your partner 7 Remembering to do it 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Feelings and focus 5 Choosing your response 5 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Cool the body first 5 Emotions as signals 5 Equanimity and perspective 5 Listening and understanding 5 When everything feels flat 5 When you use something to cope 4 The moment before you snap 4 Structure and routine 4 Touch and bodywork 3 Getting assessed and diagnosed 3 Growing empathy 3 Food, caffeine and fuel 3 Shared spiritual life 3 Rituals of connection 3 Tolerate distress 3 Reading, numbers and learning differences 3 Treatment and medication 2 Being seen and judged 2 Get started 2 Shame 2 Shame and stigma 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Panic and the body 2 Grounding and settling 2 The fear underneath anger 1 Rest and pacing 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Repair after rupture 1 Practising under provocation 1 Posture and how you carry yourself 1 What you are actually defending 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 When you go numb 1 Making it stick 1 Help someone grieving 1 Affection and touch 1 Feeling from the inside 1 Breathing 1 Ask and say no well 1

Approach

Medical and treatment 2 CBT 1

When

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 1

Time alone can be a good idea or a dangerous one, and the difference is what sits underneath it. If you are already low, already dodging people, or drinking on your own, a plan to see fewer people is the wrong plan.

Ask honestly which one this is. Stepping back from a crowded, quarrelsome week is one thing. Disappearing because you cannot face anybody is another,…

Five minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 93:10

Telling somebody one thing you are quietly embarrassed about will bring you closer than a month of pleasant conversation.

It does not have to be dramatic. The worry you have never said out loud, the mistake you still think about at night, the thing you are no good at.…

Five minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 28:23

If it really is that you feel too much for people, the useful move is not more feeling. It is learning to say no while still meaning them well.

Naming your softness as something that gets used is what makes a limit bearable to set. You are not becoming colder. You are stopping the slow build…

Five minutesGrowing empathyCBTQur’an 16:90

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