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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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126 practices
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Area
Focus, starting, and ADHD 62Your marriage 26Worry and anxiety 18Your body 12Anger 7Low mood and hard feelings 1
How long you have · Twenty minutes
A minute 165Five minutes 296Twenty minutes 126Longer 38
Who it is written for
A practitioner 100Someone I care about 84Me 83My husband or wife 27
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 81Getting ready for something 24Struggling right now 21
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
On my own 264Involves someone else 126Both of us together 76
Theme
Screens and attention 9Systems for daily life 9The cost of avoiding 9Treatment and medication 8Medication and how it works 8Moving your body 7Feelings and focus 6Shared spiritual life 6What ADHD actually is 5Staying regulated in conflict 5Growing empathy 4Rituals of connection 4Breaking the worry loop 4Exercise, food and other supports 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4What worry does 3Get started 3Repair after rupture 3Rebuilding trust 3Knowing your partner 3Shame and stigma 2Answering bids 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Breathing 2Facing it a step at a time 2Posture and how you carry yourself 1Your nervous system 1The moment before you snap 1Structure and routine 1Your sense of time 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1What anger actually is 1Food, caffeine and fuel 1When you use something to cope 1
Approach
ADHD skills 33Medical and treatment 27CBT 23Gottman 20Core 13Body based 5Emotionally focused 4DBT skills 1
When
Any ordinary day 82Under stress 14In a change 11After a row 10Coming and going 5When apart 3Something good 1

When you assess a young person, take a reading of the adults as well: what they understand about the world their child lives in, and how comfortable they are in it.

A good deal of what arrives as the presenting problem is really a mismatch. A parent reads something ordinary as alarming, or something serious as…

Twenty minutesWhat worry doesCBTQur’an 12:86

Whatever approach the anxious person is learning, teach it to the people they live with. A skill that only one person in the house knows gets overridden by everyone else's habits.

Families have a settled way of responding to distress, usually built out of love, and it will win against anything learned in an hour once a week. So…

Twenty minutesBreaking the worry loopCBTQur’an 2:153

With a child, make it a job rather than a lesson. They are the detective, the worried thought is the claim, and the task is to collect what supports it and what does not before deciding anything.

Two columns on a page, in their handwriting, not yours. Ask what a friend would notice, what happened the last three times, what would have to be…

Twenty minutesBreaking the worry loopCBTQur’an 17:36

Do not tell a child their thinking is wrong, and do not hand them the better thought. Ask the questions and let them arrive at it themselves.

A conclusion someone reaches on their own stays with them. One that was given to them falls apart the moment they are frightened, because it was…

Twenty minutesBreaking the worry loopCBTQur’an 40:60

Sometimes there really is evidence for the fear. Say so. The balance comes from the other column being fuller, not from pretending the first column is empty.

Children are being bullied, are laughed at, do get things wrong in front of everyone. If you wave that away, they learn the exercise is fixed and…

Twenty minutesBreaking the worry loopCBTQur’an 53:28

When you cannot settle yourself, borrow somebody else's steadiness. Sitting near a calm person, even without talking, is a real thing to try.

Choose by effect rather than by closeness. Some people you love leave you more wound up than you started, and some people you barely know are easy to…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 2:248

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