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Your sense of time remove filterCoping, mostly remove filterInvolves someone else remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 2Five minutes 5
Who it is written for
Someone I care about 7A practitioner 7My husband or wife 1Me 1
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Coping, mostly 7Getting ready for something 3Struggling right now 1
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
On my own 31Involves someone else 7Both of us together 2
Theme · Your sense of time
Medication and how it works 34Systems for daily life 24Staying regulated in conflict 24The cost of avoiding 20Moving your body 16Knowing your partner 15Rebuilding trust 14Affection and touch 13Exercise, food and other supports 13Listening and understanding 12Screens and attention 12Repair after rupture 11Answering bids 11Rituals of connection 11Shared spiritual life 10Bringing the future closer 8What anger actually is 8Feelings and focus 8Your nervous system 8Treatment and medication 7Breaking the worry loop 7What ADHD actually is 7Structure and routine 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Your sense of time 7What worry does 6Equanimity and perspective 6Growing empathy 6Food, caffeine and fuel 5Get started 5Emotions as signals 5Breathing 4When everything feels flat 4Treatment and medication 4When you use something to cope 4Grounding and settling 4Choosing your response 3The moment before you snap 3Facing it a step at a time 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3What you are actually defending 2Gratitude 2Obsessions and compulsions 2The fear underneath anger 2Panic and the body 2Remembering to do it 2Shame and stigma 2Tolerate distress 2Touch and bodywork 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Fondness and admiration 2Being seen and judged 2Ask and say no well 2Help someone grieving 2Safety and grounding 1Practising under provocation 1Posture and how you carry yourself 1Validate yourself and others 1Cool the body first 1Shame 1
When
Any ordinary day 5In a change 1After a row 1

When someone has missed the deadline again, the talk about how they always do this changes nothing except how they feel. If you want a different Friday, the conversation belongs on Monday, and it is about the plan rather than the person.

This is a hard one, because the frustration is real and often fair. But the lecture lands on a system that was never the failure point, and it adds…

A minuteYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 103:3

Instead of one warning, give several: half an hour, fifteen minutes, five, one. The child then has time to arrive at the ending rather than having it dropped on them.

A single warning asks a child to track the gap on their own, which is the thing they cannot do. A ladder of prompts turns a stretch of time into a…

A minuteYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 36:39

If the test is on Friday and it is Monday, Friday is doing almost no work. Put something today on the end of today's revision, however small.

This is not spoiling a child. It is matching the reward to the timescale they can actually feel, which is roughly the one they are living in. Half an…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 78:11

If the only real feedback a child gets arrives every ten weeks, it will not shape a single Tuesday. A report at the end of term is a record, not a motivator.

This is worth saying gently to teachers and to parents who feel that grades ought to be motivation enough. For this child they are not, and no amount…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 18:19

For younger children, make the reward small, concrete and soon. Stickers, points, a smiley face, five minutes of something good, handed over the same hour rather than at the end of the week.

Points that build towards something bigger work well, as long as the point itself arrives immediately. Hourly is not too often for a young child, and…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 11:114

Keep consequences for the sake of honesty, but let praise and reward do most of the work. Punishment can tell a child what to stop and it cannot tell them what to do instead.

Children with this difficulty collect an extraordinary amount of correction over a childhood, from teachers, from parents, from other children.…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 30:17

Go looking for the moment the child does the thing you have been asking for, and say so while it is still happening. Most of us watch for the problem and only notice the good behaviour when we have run out of trouble.

It helps to decide in advance what you are hunting for, so that starting the homework without being asked, or waiting a turn, actually registers…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 25:62

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