Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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3 practices

Being seen and judged Involves someone else Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 Me 3 Someone I care about 1

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 2 Getting ready for something 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 22 Both of us together 5 Involves someone else 3

Theme · Being seen and judged

Medication and how it works 61 Systems for daily life 37 The cost of avoiding 36 Screens and attention 26 Staying regulated in conflict 24 Moving your body 21 Treatment and medication 20 Knowing your partner 15 Exercise, food and other supports 15 Rebuilding trust 14 Affection and touch 13 Feelings and focus 13 What ADHD actually is 13 What anger actually is 13 Listening and understanding 12 Your sense of time 11 Rituals of connection 11 Your nervous system 11 Breaking the worry loop 11 Answering bids 11 Repair after rupture 11 Facing it a step at a time 10 The moment before you snap 10 Structure and routine 10 What worry does 10 Shared spiritual life 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 Getting assessed and diagnosed 10 Grounding and settling 9 Bringing the future closer 9 Equanimity and perspective 7 When everything feels flat 7 Get started 7 Treatment and medication 7 Growing empathy 7 Emotions as signals 7 Cool the body first 7 Choosing your response 7 Breathing 7 Remembering to do it 6 Reading, numbers and learning differences 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame and stigma 5 When you use something to cope 5 Tolerate distress 4 Touch and bodywork 4 Making it stick 3 Practising under provocation 3 Being seen and judged 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Panic and the body 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 The fear underneath anger 2 What you are actually defending 2 Help someone grieving 2 Fondness and admiration 2 Shame 2 Gratitude 2 Rest and pacing 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Ask and say no well 2 When you go numb 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Safety and grounding 1 Living with uncertainty 1

Approach

CBT 2 Narrative 1

Next rung: remark on something in the room. The plant, the noise outside, the length of the queue. Nothing about the person yet, just something out loud about where you both are.

It is the lowest stakes opening there is, because the subject is neutral and the other person can pick it up or leave it. Most of the time a small…

A minuteBeing seen and judgedCBTQur’an 2:264

Give the ladder a name that sounds like yours. Challenges you set yourself land completely differently from tasks you have been handed.

Write the steps out with whoever is helping rather than receiving a finished list. The words matter more than they should: a challenge invites you to…

Five minutesBeing seen and judgedCBTQur’an 5:54

Being articulate is not the same as being alright. Plenty of people who talk easily one to one are barely holding it together in the rooms that actually frighten them.

This is where families and clinicians get it wrong most often. Someone speaks well in a quiet office, so the fear gets marked down as mild, and the…

Five minutesBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 40:19

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