Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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10 practices

Shared spiritual life Involves someone else Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 6

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 10 Me 10

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

Involves someone else 10 On my own 7

Theme · Shared spiritual life

Medication and how it works 61 Systems for daily life 37 The cost of avoiding 36 Screens and attention 26 Staying regulated in conflict 24 Moving your body 21 Treatment and medication 20 Knowing your partner 15 Exercise, food and other supports 15 Rebuilding trust 14 Affection and touch 13 Feelings and focus 13 What ADHD actually is 13 What anger actually is 13 Listening and understanding 12 Your sense of time 11 Rituals of connection 11 Your nervous system 11 Breaking the worry loop 11 Answering bids 11 Repair after rupture 11 Facing it a step at a time 10 The moment before you snap 10 Structure and routine 10 What worry does 10 Shared spiritual life 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 Getting assessed and diagnosed 10 Grounding and settling 9 Bringing the future closer 9 Equanimity and perspective 7 When everything feels flat 7 Get started 7 Treatment and medication 7 Growing empathy 7 Emotions as signals 7 Cool the body first 7 Choosing your response 7 Breathing 7 Remembering to do it 6 Reading, numbers and learning differences 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame and stigma 5 When you use something to cope 5 Tolerate distress 4 Touch and bodywork 4 Making it stick 3 Practising under provocation 3 Being seen and judged 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Panic and the body 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 The fear underneath anger 2 What you are actually defending 2 Help someone grieving 2 Fondness and admiration 2 Shame 2 Gratitude 2 Rest and pacing 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Ask and say no well 2 When you go numb 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Safety and grounding 1 Living with uncertainty 1

Approach

Gottman 7 Core 2 Emotionally focused 1

When

Any ordinary day 9 Under stress 1

When something hard lands, say it out loud: we will face this together.

Turn a my problem into an ours. Facing it as a team halves its weight.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:71

Do one small good deed for someone else, together.

Turning outward as a pair, a little charity done side by side, quietly strengthens the two of you.

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 42:38

Before hammering out differences, start from common ground: what do we agree on, and what are our shared goals?

Name the agreement and the shared aim first. Building from what you have in common makes the rest easier.

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 3:64

Nurture a sense of we, not I: name what you share, your beliefs, goals, and the life you are building.

Seeing yourselves as a team, with shared values and aims, is a quiet strength in hard times.

Five minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 9:71

Ask your spouse about a dream they hold for their life, and one small way you could back it.

Not a task for this week. A hope for their life. Knowing it, and helping toward it, joins two lives.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 5:2

Talk with your spouse about what your roles at home mean to each of you, not just who does what.

Not a chore chart. What providing, nurturing, or protecting means to you underneath.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 66:6

Name one goal you are building toward together, and say it out loud as ours.

The home, the children's upbringing, a habit of worship. Something you are making together.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 25:74

Agree with your spouse on one value you want your home to stand for, and live it this week.

Generosity, honesty, patience, prayer. Pick one, name it, and let it show in the house.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 20:132

Tell your children, or each other, one good part of your story of us.

How you met, a hard thing you got through, why you are proud of this we. Say it aloud.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 30:21

Wake gently for a prayer together at night, even once this week.

A shared moment turned toward God, in the quiet of the night, binds two hearts to something larger than themselves.

Twenty minutesShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

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