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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Who it is written for
My husband or wife 5Me 5
On your own, or with someone · On my own
On my own 5Involves someone else 2
Theme · Answering bids
What anger actually is 83The fear underneath anger 50Choosing your response 44The moment before you snap 35Equanimity and perspective 22Making it stick 15Reading, numbers and learning differences 14Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Staying regulated in conflict 12What you are actually defending 12Getting assessed and diagnosed 7When anger turns to harm 7Screens and attention 6Fondness and admiration 5Cool the body first 5Answering bids 5Repair after rupture 4Gratitude 4Question the thought 3Working with anger 2Treatment and medication 2Shared spiritual life 2Act on your values 2Rituals of connection 2Knowing your partner 2Affection and touch 1
Approach · Core
Core 5Gottman 4Emotionally focused 4
When
Any ordinary day 3Under stress 1Something good 1

When they share good news, ask a question about it.

The next time your spouse tells you something good, do not just say "that's great." Ask about it. How did it happen? What did you say? How did it…

A minuteAnswering bidsCoreQur’an 30:21

Do the small thing you said you would do.

Think of the smallest thing you told your spouse you would do and have not done. The call, the form, the shelf. Do it today, not because it matters,…

A minuteAnswering bidsCoreQur’an 17:34

Answer the small bid; the passing comment about the weather is really a reach for you.

Turning toward these tiny moments, again and again, is what quietly builds a bond.

A minuteAnswering bidsCoreQur’an 4:19

Do the smallest thing you said you would do and have not.

Small kept words are the quiet floor a marriage stands on.

A minuteAnswering bidsCoreQur’an 17:34

Before you respond, say back what you heard them mean.

Being understood, even before being agreed with, settles almost everything.

A minuteAnswering bidsCoreQur’an 42:38

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