Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have · Twenty minutes
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Approach · Gottman
A break only counts if you come back. Notice the anger, leave the room, actually settle yourself, then return and finish the conversation.
Most people manage the leaving and skip the settling, so they spend twenty minutes rehearsing their case and come back more wound up than when they…
You may need to leave and come back two or three times before one conversation is finished. That is normal, not a sign that the skill is not working.
Bodies come down slowly. You can feel steady enough to return, sit down, hear one sentence and be right back at the top again. Knowing that in…
Take one concrete action this week toward a goal your spouse cares about.
Watch the kids so they can study. Make the call they dread. Move their dream one inch.
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