Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
2 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Rebuilding trust
Staying regulated in conflict 36Fondness and admiration 13Answering bids 13Feelings and focus 12Emotions as signals 12Knowing your partner 10Repair after rupture 8Shared spiritual life 7Gratitude 7Choosing your response 5Treatment and medication 4What anger actually is 4Remembering to do it 3When you go numb 3The moment before you snap 3Rituals of connection 2Affection and touch 2Rebuilding trust 2Bringing the future closer 2Equanimity and perspective 1Systems for daily life 1Shame 1The fear underneath anger 1Listening and understanding 1
Deliberately hold your partner's good qualities in mind, and let cherishing crowd out resentful thoughts.
After trust is rebuilding, nurture cherishing: recall and dwell on what you value in them, on purpose.
A betrayal is the choice of the one who made it. Unhappiness never forced it, and it is not the hurt partner's fault.
A struggling marriage is one thing; how a person responds to it is their own choice. Do not carry blame that is not yours.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.