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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Nothing here does the job on its own. Medication if it suits you, a few practical systems, something for the low mood and shame that has built up, and the people you live with brought into it.
The practical layer is the easiest to describe and the first to fall over, because whether you use a system at all depends on how you feel about…
In the famous test a child is left alone with one sweet and told that waiting will earn them two. Some reach for it almost before the grown up has finished speaking. They understood the offer perfectly. The second sweet simply was not real to them.
That is the whole thing in one image: the knowledge intact, the feeling absent. You can know that filing the return today would save you a fortnight…
A hundred pounds now, or the same hundred pounds guaranteed at the end of the year. Same money, same certainty. One of them pulls at you and the other does not.
Worth sitting with for a moment, because it takes risk out of the picture entirely. There is nothing to lose by waiting, and the near one still feels…
Here is a short way to hold the whole difficulty: the now in front of you is too big and the later is too small. It fits in your head at the moment you need it, which longer explanations do not.
Use it as a question rather than a verdict. Standing at the fridge at eleven at night, or with the tab open instead of the form, you can ask whether…
Choosing the dull useful thing over the bright easy one starts with a pause, not with willpower. If the pause never happens, nothing downstream of it gets a chance to happen either.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
The chain runs roughly like this: something stops you for a second, you notice what you are doing, the later consequence comes into view, and only…