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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Talking yourself out of anger while it is peaking rarely works. Noticing that a thought is happening costs far less than winning an argument with it.
The reasonable voice is quiet exactly when the alarm is loud, so debating yourself tends to end with you losing to yourself and feeling worse for it.…
Angry eyes and focused eyes look alike because they are doing the same job. Anger is your attention locked hard onto one target.
That description is more useful than a moral one, because attention is something you can practise and being a good person is not something you can…
Whatever you fix on costs you everything else in the room. In anger the picture stops moving and the target becomes the whole of it.
This is why the alternatives someone offers you mid argument sound like nonsense. You are not refusing to see them, you genuinely cannot see them…
Strong feeling narrows what you are aiming at, a narrow aim makes anything touching it look enormous, and that makes the feeling stronger. Get in early, because the loop is cheapest to interrupt at the start.
Waiting until you notice how big it has become means waiting until the loop has already gained. The practical version is to act on signals you would…
Before you start a practice that needs a pen and paper, have the pen and paper. It sounds too small to matter and it is the difference between doing the exercise and daydreaming about it.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
The physical object is what turns something happening inside you into something you can count. If you are doing this with someone over a screen, ask…