Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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7 practices

Gratitude Me On my own Clear all

Who it is written for · Me

Me 7 My husband or wife 7

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 7 Involves someone else 2

Theme · Gratitude

Your nervous system 105Medication and how it works 82 What anger actually is 78 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 59 Equanimity and perspective 57 The fear underneath anger 56 Cool the body first 55 Your sense of time 52 Touch and bodywork 52 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 What ADHD actually is 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 When everything feels flat 39 Feelings and focus 37 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Practising under provocation 36 Shame and stigma 30 Treatment and medication 29 Making it stick 29 Screens and attention 28 Getting assessed and diagnosed 28 Breathing 28 Structure and routine 24 Tolerate distress 23 Feeling from the inside 23 Being seen and judged 22 What worry does 21 What you are actually defending 21 Treatment and medication 20 Growing empathy 20 Remembering to do it 20 When you use something to cope 18 Answering bids 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 Obsessions and compulsions 12 Self-compassion 12 Emotions as signals 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 12 Question the thought 11 Knowing your partner 10 Facing it a step at a time 10 Shame 10 Use your strengths 9 Repair after rupture 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Gratitude 7 Shared spiritual life 7 When anger turns to harm 5 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 When you go numb 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Name what you feel 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Rest and pacing 3 Safety and grounding 3 Let the wave come 3 Act on your values 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Calm the body 3 Find meaning 2 Keep the bond 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Affection and touch 2 Work with your brain 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Patience and trust 2 Face it gently 2 Listen to the body 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Ride the urge 2 Get it out of your head 2 Hold a boundary 2 Rituals of connection 2 Listening and understanding 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Panic and the body 1

Approach

Core 4 Gottman 3

Give your spouse one genuine compliment today, specific enough that it could only be them.

Not nice shirt. The way you handled that call was so calm. Precise praise lands deepest.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 55:60

When resentment rises today, name one thing you are grateful to your spouse for instead.

The mind can rehearse grievances or blessings. Choose the blessing, out loud if you can.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 14:7

Thank them for one specific thing, today.

Not "thanks for everything." Pick one thing from the last two days and name it exactly: "Thank you for taking the bins out when I was on that call. I…

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Thank them for something they do so routinely you had stopped noticing it.

The unremarked, dependable acts are exactly the ones that most deserve to be seen.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Say not just that you appreciated what they did, but what it saved you.

Naming the burden they spared you turns a thank-you into being truly seen.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Send them a message today naming one thing you are grateful for, with no occasion.

Unprompted gratitude, arriving in the middle of an ordinary day, lands especially softly.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Build a habit of mind that scans your partner and your day for what to appreciate, not what to criticize.

What you look for grows. Train your eye toward their good and the relationship warms.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 16:18

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