Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices

Gratitude On my own Any ordinary day Clear all

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 7 Me 7

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 7 Involves someone else 2

Theme · Gratitude

Your nervous system 81 Medication and how it works 69 Get started 61 Systems for daily life 52 What anger actually is 50 Your sense of time 48 Food, caffeine and fuel 43 The moment before you snap 42 Choosing your response 41 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Moving your body 37 What ADHD actually is 35 Treatment and medication 34 Bringing the future closer 33 Equanimity and perspective 33 Grounding and settling 31 The fear underneath anger 30 When everything feels flat 29 Screens and attention 28 Touch and bodywork 27 Structure and routine 25 Getting assessed and diagnosed 25 Practising under provocation 24 Shame and stigma 22 Feelings and focus 22 Making it stick 20 Treatment and medication 19 Cool the body first 19 What worry does 19 Being seen and judged 18 Growing empathy 17 Remembering to do it 17 Breathing 17 Feeling from the inside 15 When you use something to cope 15 What you are actually defending 13 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 Fondness and admiration 12 Tolerate distress 10 Obsessions and compulsions 10 Righteous anger and perfectionism 10 Answering bids 10 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Knowing your partner 8 Self-compassion 8 Use your strengths 8 Breaking the worry loop 7 Gratitude 7 Shared spiritual life 7 Facing it a step at a time 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 6 Emotions as signals 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame 4 Living with uncertainty 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 When anger turns to harm 3 When you go numb 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Get it out of your head 2 Keep the bond 2 Find meaning 2 Rest and pacing 2 Act on your values 2 Meaning after harm 2 Repair after rupture 2 Face it gently 2 Work with your brain 2 Panic and the body 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Listening and understanding 1 Your window of tolerance 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Listen to the body 1 Affection and touch 1 Rebuilding trust 1 Safety and grounding 1

Approach

Core 4 Gottman 3

Give your spouse one genuine compliment today, specific enough that it could only be them.

Not nice shirt. The way you handled that call was so calm. Precise praise lands deepest.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 55:60

When resentment rises today, name one thing you are grateful to your spouse for instead.

The mind can rehearse grievances or blessings. Choose the blessing, out loud if you can.

A minuteGratitudeGottmanQur’an 14:7

Thank them for one specific thing, today.

Not "thanks for everything." Pick one thing from the last two days and name it exactly: "Thank you for taking the bins out when I was on that call. I…

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Thank them for something they do so routinely you had stopped noticing it.

The unremarked, dependable acts are exactly the ones that most deserve to be seen.

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Say not just that you appreciated what they did, but what it saved you.

Naming the burden they spared you turns a thank-you into being truly seen.

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Send them a message today naming one thing you are grateful for, with no occasion.

Unprompted gratitude, arriving in the middle of an ordinary day, lands especially softly.

A minuteGratitudeCoreQur’an 14:7

Build a habit of mind that scans your partner and your day for what to appreciate, not what to criticize.

What you look for grows. Train your eye toward their good and the relationship warms.

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