Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Treatment and medication
Your nervous system 81Medication and how it works 69Get started 61Systems for daily life 52What anger actually is 50Your sense of time 48Food, caffeine and fuel 43The moment before you snap 42Choosing your response 41Exercise, food and other supports 40Moving your body 37What ADHD actually is 35Treatment and medication 34Equanimity and perspective 33Bringing the future closer 33Grounding and settling 31The fear underneath anger 30When everything feels flat 29Screens and attention 28Touch and bodywork 27Structure and routine 25Getting assessed and diagnosed 25Practising under provocation 24Shame and stigma 22Feelings and focus 22Making it stick 20What worry does 19Cool the body first 19Treatment and medication 19Being seen and judged 18Remembering to do it 17Breathing 17Growing empathy 17Feeling from the inside 15When you use something to cope 15What you are actually defending 13Reading, numbers and learning differences 12Fondness and admiration 12Tolerate distress 10Righteous anger and perfectionism 10Answering bids 10Obsessions and compulsions 10Staying regulated in conflict 9Use your strengths 8Self-compassion 8Knowing your partner 8Facing it a step at a time 7Gratitude 7Breaking the worry loop 7Shared spiritual life 7Question the thought 6Emotions as signals 6Anger, alcohol and the body 6Posture and how you carry yourself 5Shame 4Living with uncertainty 3When you go numb 3When anger turns to harm 3Your worth is not conditional 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Work with your brain 2Meaning after harm 2Keep the bond 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Act on your values 2Face it gently 2Repair after rupture 2Rest and pacing 2Panic and the body 1Your window of tolerance 1Listening and understanding 1Care for yourself in loss 1Safety and grounding 1The cost of avoiding 1Rebuilding trust 1Listen to the body 1Affection and touch 1
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When · Any ordinary day

ADHD is managed rather than cured, across a whole life. Anything advertising a cure is telling you it is not working from the evidence.

Managed sounds like a disappointment until you look at what it means in practice: treatment that fits your life now, adjusted when the life changes,…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:286

If mindfulness is going to help with ADHD, the version with a chance is small and spread out. A few seconds of noticing, several times a day, rather than one long sitting you come to dread.

A forty five minute block asks you to get settled in one place and then somehow carry that into the afternoon, and the carrying is exactly what tends…

A minuteTreatment and medicationCBTQur’an 22:78

By response rate, extended release stimulants are among the most effective medicines in psychiatry, and most people tolerate them well. That is worth hearing plainly, particularly from people who are not generally keen on medication.

What the long acting form buys you is coverage. A dose that has faded by four in the afternoon leaves the evening bare, and the evening is where home…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Better usually means smaller, rarer, or shorter. Pick something you can count, like losing your keys twice a week instead of every day.

Vague goals cannot be reviewed, so a few months later nobody can say whether anything changed and you are left going on mood alone. Choose two or…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:3

You are going to look things up anyway, so start somewhere with proper review behind it. CHADD and Understood both have professionals checking what goes on the page.

Telling anyone to stop searching online has never worked and only means they search without saying so. Better to hand over two or three places worth…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:43

Brain training and therapeutic games raise one question above all others. Does the improvement show up anywhere except inside the game, and does it last once you stop playing?

People do get better at what they practise, and the scores go up, which makes for a persuasive chart on a website. The harder question is whether…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:11

Supplements are not checked before they go on sale, so what is in the bottle may not match the label. Look for a third party mark such as USP or NSF before you buy.

This is not about whether a given supplement helps. It is about the plainer question of whether you are getting the dose written on the front, since…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:195

CBT has more research behind it than most other therapies, and part of that is because it is easy to count. Its steps and its outcomes can be scored, so it gets studied more often.

That is worth saying because a thin research base is not the same as a therapy that fails. Approaches that work through relationship, imagery or the…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 39:9

Two things happening together is not one causing the other. Learn that once and you have a reply to most of the claims you will meet.

Children with ADHD may use more screens, and screens may not be the reason. The same shape turns up with sugar, with additives, with organic food and…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:36

The point of treatment is not a tidier score on a questionnaire. It is fewer accidents, a finished course, work that holds, relationships that survive, a longer and better life.

Symptoms are worth reducing because of what they do downstream, and that is where the goal should be set. It changes what you review, too. Instead of…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 9:105

After a working lifetime in this field, Barkley names the change in how a family sees the child as the most important step of all. Not the medication, not the charts.

The reason is practical rather than sentimental. Every other part of treatment asks parents to keep going for weeks with very little to show for it,…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 13:11

Being told ADHD is largely inherited can sound like being told nothing can be done. It does not follow, and the two questions are separate ones.

How much of something a person shows, day to day, moves a good deal with what is around them, even when the underlying trait is strongly heritable.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 12:87

A child can be almost trouble free with a grandparent who has all afternoon for them, and impossible in a class of twenty five. Same child, same condition, very different demand.

What a setting asks for is the ratio between the self control a person has to supply and the structure being supplied for them. One adult, close…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 94:5

Untreated ADHD is not free. It turns up in appointments, in repeat trips to A and E, in school reports and in lost work, and the bill lands on the family either way.

So when the cost of treatment is the reason for waiting, it is worth adding up what is already going out, in money and in hours and in the things…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:28

Gathering disruptive children into one room to learn social skills leaves about a quarter of them worse than before. They pick things up from each other far faster than from the adult at the front.

This is not a reason to give up on helping a child socially. It is a reason to look hard at who else is in the group before you accept a place in it.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationCoreQur’an 2:195

The warning about group social skills work is about loud, disruptive children. A quiet, anxious child who simply has not had much practice with other children is a different case, and a gentle group may be exactly right.

So the question is not whether groups work, but which child is sitting in front of you. If the difficulty really is inexperience, a group offers…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationCoreQur’an 49:6

Play based programmes that build executive skills in young children have done reasonably well with children at risk of struggling at school. None has yet been tested in children actually diagnosed with ADHD, and that is a real difference rather than a technicality.

Results found in a broad at risk group tend to shrink, sometimes to nothing, when the same thing is tried with clinically diagnosed children, where…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:114

Showing a teenager live pictures of activity in one targeted part of their own brain has been tried once, in a small trial, and it looked encouraging. That was around a dozen young people, and nobody has repeated it yet.

This is worth knowing about mainly so you can tell it apart from the neurofeedback that is widely sold. The clinic version reads surface brain…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:43

There is a headband worn at night that stimulates a nerve in the face, cleared by regulators and tested against a dummy version in a single trial. Some children improved. Some felt sick or slept badly and stopped.

Regulatory clearance answers whether a device is safe enough to be sold, not whether it beats what you are already doing. One trial, funded by the…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 39:9

Magnetic stimulation of the brain has been tried for ADHD and has not yet shown anything. The studies are small, often single cases, and not built in a way that could give a trustworthy answer.

Small uncontrolled studies are generous places. Hope, attention and the freedom to report only the good parts all push results upwards. That does not…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 21:7

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