Practices

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Your nervous system 65Medication and how it works 49What anger actually is 46Equanimity and perspective 36Touch and bodywork 34The moment before you snap 34Get started 33Getting assessed and diagnosed 32Grounding and settling 32Exercise, food and other supports 31Choosing your response 30Your sense of time 30When everything feels flat 29What ADHD actually is 28The fear underneath anger 28Food, caffeine and fuel 27Systems for daily life 25Practising under provocation 22Treatment and medication 21Bringing the future closer 19Cool the body first 18Shame and stigma 18Breathing 18Screens and attention 17What worry does 16Moving your body 16Feeling from the inside 16What you are actually defending 15Feelings and focus 14Making it stick 11Being seen and judged 11Structure and routine 11Treatment and medication 10Obsessions and compulsions 9Remembering to do it 9Growing empathy 9Breaking the worry loop 9Righteous anger and perfectionism 8When you use something to cope 8Tolerate distress 8Self-compassion 7Emotions as signals 7Reading, numbers and learning differences 7Posture and how you carry yourself 5Question the thought 5When anger turns to harm 4Facing it a step at a time 4Staying regulated in conflict 4Shame 4When you go numb 3Work with your brain 2Meaning after harm 2Anger, alcohol and the body 2Use your strengths 2Living with uncertainty 2Find meaning 2Act on your values 2Working with anger 1Rebuilding trust 1Calm the body 1Shared spiritual life 1Repair after rupture 1The cost of avoiding 1Get it out of your head 1Knowing your partner 1Let the wave come 1Rest and pacing 1Your worth is not conditional 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Notice the pattern and flex 1Your window of tolerance 1
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Speech arrives on its own if a child is spoken to. Reading, writing and arithmetic do not, and it is no failing that they have to be taught piece by piece.

Children absorb talk from the people around them without lessons. Print is a much later invention and the brain has no ready made place for it, so it…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 96:4

A child working words out from the pictures and the shape of the sentence is guessing well, not reading yet. It usually holds up until around the third year of school and then gives way, because the pictures stop and the words get longer.

Ask to hear the child read something with no illustrations and no predictable pattern. That is where you find out whether sounds and letters have…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 96:1

When the usual route into reading or arithmetic does not form, children build another one, and it nearly always runs through memory. It works for years, and it costs far more effort than anyone watching realises.

This is the bright child who is somehow always tired, always slow with written work, quietly memorising what everyone else is working out. The route…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 20:26

In most children attention and memory sit at roughly the same level. When memory is far ahead of everything around it, ask what it has been quietly making up for.

Only fair attention with an unusually strong working memory is a signal rather than a strength to celebrate. The memory is carrying something. Look…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 28:34

Some people get all the way to university before anything is named, then meet eighty pages of reading a night and cannot do it. Nothing broke that night. The volume simply outgrew a way of coping that had held for years.

The history reads the same way every time afterwards: always needed longer, avoided reading aloud, dreaded timed tests, stomach trouble in exam…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 2:286

Take the sorrow you cannot say to anyone else and pour it out to God, in your own plain words.

You do not have to hold it alone or find the right phrase. Say the raw thing to the One who already knows it.

Five minutesLet the wave comeGriefQur’an 12:86

The chemistry story runs backwards from how it is usually told. Nobody found a low chemical and then built a drug. They noticed what certain drugs did to mood and reasoned back to what must have been missing.

Reserpine emptied out the monoamines and people became depressed. Iproniazid and imipramine raised them and mood lifted. Out of that came the account…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Depression is not one thing with one address. Fatigue, blank concentration, lost libido and the loss of pleasure do not all come from the same place, so it helps to name which one you most want moved.

This is why two people with the same diagnosis get offered different tablets. A flat, pleasureless presentation points one way, a fatigued and achey…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

Ask why the tablets take weeks. That one question sorts the honest accounts of how they work from the tidy story about a chemical being low.

Four competing versions sit under the same umbrella: too little released, reuptake running too hard, too much broken down, or receptors that need an…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 30:50

Nearly all of them do the one thing: keep a monoamine hanging about in the synapse for longer. So when you hear that some other tablet is stronger, be a little sceptical.

Head to head, the differences in how much they lift mood are modest. Where they really differ is in everything else they do to you, and in how well…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 15:88

SSRIs became the default for four reasons, and being more effective is not among them. They are easier to tolerate, taken once a day, far safer in overdose, and cheap as generics.

Tricyclics match them for lifting mood and are dangerous in overdose because of what they do to the heart. MAOIs carry food and drug interactions…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

Stopping suddenly can bring lethargy, nausea, irritability and headache within a few days. That is discontinuation, not the illness coming back.

Timing is the giveaway. Withdrawal starts within days of the last dose and often has a particular feel to it: dizziness, odd electrical zaps, a…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:6

Discontinuation gets mistaken for relapse constantly, by clients and by clinicians. The mistake runs in both directions and both directions cost something.

Read withdrawal as relapse and a person concludes they will need the tablet for life, when what they needed was a slower taper. Read a real relapse…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 41:49

Never come off an antidepressant on your own. The taper belongs to the prescriber, and for some drugs it needs to be slower and longer than people expect.

The moment to raise this is before anybody acts, not afterwards. If a client is feeling better and starting to think about stopping, that thought is…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 9:118

One person's side effect is another person's treatment. Sedation is a burden for someone who cannot get out of bed and a gift for someone who cannot get to sleep.

Read the comparison charts that way and they stop being lists of harms. They turn into a set of levers: this one settles, this one gets you moving,…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 93:1

Four things carry most of the difference within the class: how much it sedates, how much it activates, what it does to weight, and what it does to sex.

Before anything is chosen, write down which of the four you cannot live with. Almost nobody is neutral about all four, and the one you will not…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:7

Two rough shapes of low mood are worth telling apart: the irritable, restless, crabby kind, and the flattened, heavy, nothing matters kind.

They ask for different things. The agitated version often tolerates and even welcomes something sedating, while the flattened version needs whatever…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 30:36

A genetic test can tell you how quickly your body clears a medicine. It cannot tell you whether that medicine will lift your mood, and it helps to keep those two questions apart.

Where these panels earn their place is in dosing and tolerability. Someone who breaks a drug down slowly may need less of it, and someone who clears…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Some antidepressants take weeks to build up and weeks to clear, so both the improvement and the aftermath run on a slower clock than you would expect.

Fluoxetine is the usual example. It and the substance it turns into stay around a long time, which means a fair trial is counted in weeks and…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:214

Some newer antidepressants do two jobs in a single tablet: the familiar one of keeping serotonin available, plus a direct nudge at the receiving end.

This is worth knowing because it explains what a person actually feels. A drug with a second action brings a second set of effects, wanted and…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

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