Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · When everything feels flat
Choosing your response 34The moment before you snap 34Staying regulated in conflict 32Cool the body first 29What anger actually is 24Your nervous system 24Grounding and settling 21The fear underneath anger 20Get started 19Bringing the future closer 18Medication and how it works 16Equanimity and perspective 14Your sense of time 14Fondness and admiration 13Answering bids 13Treatment and medication 13Making it stick 12Structure and routine 12Systems for daily life 12Feelings and focus 11Practising under provocation 11Touch and bodywork 11Growing empathy 10Food, caffeine and fuel 9Knowing your partner 9What ADHD actually is 8Exercise, food and other supports 8Gratitude 7Tolerate distress 7Remembering to do it 7Screens and attention 6When everything feels flat 6Moving your body 6Repair after rupture 6What worry does 6What you are actually defending 5Shame and stigma 5Breathing 5Being seen and judged 5Treatment and medication 5Shared spiritual life 5Self-compassion 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Question the thought 4Feeling from the inside 4When you use something to cope 3Name what you feel 3Facing it a step at a time 3Shame 2Safety and grounding 2Rituals of connection 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Affection and touch 2Hold a boundary 2Ride the urge 2Rebuilding trust 2Posture and how you carry yourself 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Patience and trust 2Panic and the body 2Emotions as signals 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Calm the body 2Let the wave come 2Meaning after harm 2Get it out of your head 1Act on your values 1Keep the bond 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Listening and understanding 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Validate yourself and others 1Rest and pacing 1Obsessions and compulsions 1When anger turns to harm 1Listen to the body 1Your window of tolerance 1When you go numb 1Breaking the worry loop 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Care for yourself in loss 1
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The blockade is partial. Serotonin is not trapped in there forever: enzymes still break it down and the transporters that are not blocked carry on working.

That matters for accuracy and it matters for reassurance, because people do picture something flooding and stuck. It also explains why serotonin…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:1

When someone says they react badly to normal doses of almost everything, take it as information about their body rather than as a personality trait.

Bodies differ in how fast they break a medicine down. Give two people the same dose and one of them may be holding far more of it for far longer,…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:7

Whether a medicine works can turn on something as ordinary as taking it with food or moving it to bedtime.

Vilazodone is the clear case. On an empty stomach a good deal less of it is absorbed, and the nausea it can cause is easier to sit with overnight…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

If a medicine leaves you wired, restless or with a pulse that will not settle, report it rather than tolerating it quietly.

The antidepressants that act on noradrenaline as well as serotonin can raise blood pressure and put nerves on edge, and with some of them that grows…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

The same medicine can be dangerous given one way and safe given another. Slow release is not a marketing word.

Bupropion was pulled from the market over seizures and came back once a slow release form existed, because what drove the risk was the sharp peak…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:110

Try putting a sentence between you and the mood: this is what my brain is doing right now. It does not make me a bad person, and it does not mean I cannot cope. It just feels that way today.

Low mood does not arrive labelled as a mood. It arrives as facts about you, that you are useless, that nobody wants you around, and it is very hard…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 93:3

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