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People say true things when they are angry, even when they say them badly. Listen past the delivery for what is being defended.
Keeping face takes effort, and anger spends the effort elsewhere, so what comes out is closer to the bone than the careful version would have been.…
A lot of anger carries a hidden demand: you damaged how I feel about myself, so now you restore it. That leaves your steadiness in somebody else's hands.
It feels like the opposite of dependence, all force and self-sufficiency, which is why it goes unnoticed. Look at the shape of the complaint. If the…
Anger is not something to get round to next month. One bad half hour can cost a job, a marriage or a criminal record.
Most difficulties give you time. This one can hand you an outcome that cannot be undone, and it can do it before you have finished deciding whether…
This is just how I am ends more attempts at change than anything else. It is also less true than it feels.
Temperament is real and some people do run hotter than others. What is not fixed is what you do in the ten seconds after something lands, and that is…
The speed of your reaction says something about how humans are built. It is not a report on how bad you are, and that difference is worth holding on to.
Shame is why people keep the incidents to themselves, and a hidden incident cannot be worked on. Understanding reactivity as inherited equipment lets…
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