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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Rebuilding trust remove filterCoping, mostly remove filterOn my own remove filterClear all
Area
Your marriage 2After harm 1
How long you have
A minute 2Five minutes 1
Who it is written for
Me 3My husband or wife 2
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Involves someone else 14On my own 3
Theme · Rebuilding trust
Medication and how it works 52Your nervous system 52What anger actually is 45Get started 41Choosing your response 41Systems for daily life 39The moment before you snap 39The fear underneath anger 38Staying regulated in conflict 36Equanimity and perspective 36Your sense of time 31Bringing the future closer 30Touch and bodywork 30Moving your body 30Treatment and medication 27Getting assessed and diagnosed 26When everything feels flat 26Exercise, food and other supports 26Feelings and focus 25Grounding and settling 22What ADHD actually is 21Food, caffeine and fuel 19Practising under provocation 19Cool the body first 18Structure and routine 18Making it stick 18What you are actually defending 17Screens and attention 17What worry does 17Treatment and medication 16Growing empathy 15Breathing 15Fondness and admiration 13Answering bids 13Feeling from the inside 12Righteous anger and perfectionism 12Shame and stigma 12Being seen and judged 12Remembering to do it 11Knowing your partner 10Tolerate distress 8Repair after rupture 8Emotions as signals 8Self-compassion 8Use your strengths 7Shared spiritual life 7Breaking the worry loop 7When you use something to cope 7Gratitude 7Facing it a step at a time 6Anger, alcohol and the body 6When anger turns to harm 5Question the thought 5Meaning after harm 4Posture and how you carry yourself 3Rebuilding trust 3Let the wave come 3Working with anger 3Safety and grounding 3Name what you feel 3Your worth is not conditional 3Act on your values 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Calm the body 3Affection and touch 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Listen to the body 2Hold a boundary 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Get it out of your head 2Patience and trust 2Rest and pacing 2Ride the urge 2Rituals of connection 2Find meaning 2Your window of tolerance 2Work with your brain 2Face it gently 2Care for yourself in loss 2Keep the bond 2Living with uncertainty 1The cost of avoiding 1Panic and the body 1When you go numb 1Listening and understanding 1Validate yourself and others 1
Approach
Gottman 2Trauma informed 1
When
Under stress 1Any ordinary day 1After a row 1

Deliberately hold your partner's good qualities in mind, and let cherishing crowd out resentful thoughts.

After trust is rebuilding, nurture cherishing: recall and dwell on what you value in them, on purpose.

A minuteRebuilding trustGottmanQur’an 25:74

Wanting comfort when you are hurting is a built-in human need, not a weakness to be ashamed of. Let yourself ask.

The urge to seek closeness and reassurance in distress is wired into us from childhood. Honouring that need, rather than judging it, is part of how…

A minuteRebuild trustTrauma informedQur’an 27:62

A betrayal is the choice of the one who made it. Unhappiness never forced it, and it is not the hurt partner's fault.

A struggling marriage is one thing; how a person responds to it is their own choice. Do not carry blame that is not yours.

Five minutesRebuilding trustGottmanQur’an 6:164

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