Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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14 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Reading, numbers and learning differences
Your nervous system 108Medication and how it works 83What anger actually is 83The moment before you snap 76Choosing your response 73Get started 65Systems for daily life 62Grounding and settling 60The fear underneath anger 57Equanimity and perspective 57Cool the body first 55Your sense of time 52Touch and bodywork 52What ADHD actually is 49Food, caffeine and fuel 49Moving your body 48Bringing the future closer 46Exercise, food and other supports 44When everything feels flat 44Treatment and medication 43Getting assessed and diagnosed 42Feelings and focus 38Staying regulated in conflict 36Practising under provocation 36Screens and attention 31Shame and stigma 30Making it stick 29Breathing 28Structure and routine 25What worry does 24Treatment and medication 24Feeling from the inside 23Tolerate distress 23Being seen and judged 22What you are actually defending 21Growing empathy 20Remembering to do it 20When you use something to cope 19Reading, numbers and learning differences 14Breaking the worry loop 13Fondness and admiration 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Answering bids 13Obsessions and compulsions 13Self-compassion 12Emotions as signals 12Facing it a step at a time 11Question the thought 11Shame 10Knowing your partner 10Use your strengths 9Posture and how you carry yourself 8Repair after rupture 8Anger, alcohol and the body 8Gratitude 7When anger turns to harm 7Shared spiritual life 7Meaning after harm 4Living with uncertainty 4When you go numb 4Letting it out safely 4Notice the pattern and flex 3Act on your values 3Safety and grounding 3Rest and pacing 3Rebuilding trust 3Working with anger 3Your worth is not conditional 3Name what you feel 3Let the wave come 3Calm the body 3Ride the urge 2Your window of tolerance 2Panic and the body 2Listen to the body 2Rituals of connection 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Patience and trust 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Care for yourself in loss 2Affection and touch 2Work with your brain 2The cost of avoiding 2Listening and understanding 1Validate yourself and others 1
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Behaviour is usually the visible end of a skill that has not been built. What you are watching in a classroom is the shape of the difficulty rather than the shape of the child.

It is a single sentence you can say in a meeting, and it tends to move the conversation away from what to do about the behaviour towards what the…

A minuteReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 17:84

Most children do not pick up reading by sitting near books. Around a fifth need very structured, repetitive teaching before it clicks, and about half of the rest still need a good deal of deliberate instruction, so structured teaching is the ordinary case rather than a special measure.

It helps to stop asking who qualifies for help and start asking how much teaching each child needs. A child left to fail badly enough to earn support…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 96:5

When reading results lift across a whole state after every teacher is retrained, the lesson is uncomfortable and hopeful at once. A good part of what looks like children failing is teaching that has not caught up yet.

One state moved from flat to clearly improved reading in years when many others slipped, and what changed was not the children but how teachers were…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 22:78

Speech arrives on its own if a child is spoken to. Reading, writing and arithmetic do not, and it is no failing that they have to be taught piece by piece.

Children absorb talk from the people around them without lessons. Print is a much later invention and the brain has no ready made place for it, so it…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 96:4

A child working words out from the pictures and the shape of the sentence is guessing well, not reading yet. It usually holds up until around the third year of school and then gives way, because the pictures stop and the words get longer.

Ask to hear the child read something with no illustrations and no predictable pattern. That is where you find out whether sounds and letters have…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 96:1

When the usual route into reading or arithmetic does not form, children build another one, and it nearly always runs through memory. It works for years, and it costs far more effort than anyone watching realises.

This is the bright child who is somehow always tired, always slow with written work, quietly memorising what everyone else is working out. The route…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 20:26

In most children attention and memory sit at roughly the same level. When memory is far ahead of everything around it, ask what it has been quietly making up for.

Only fair attention with an unusually strong working memory is a signal rather than a strength to celebrate. The memory is carrying something. Look…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 28:34

Some people get all the way to university before anything is named, then meet eighty pages of reading a night and cannot do it. Nothing broke that night. The volume simply outgrew a way of coping that had held for years.

The history reads the same way every time afterwards: always needed longer, avoided reading aloud, dreaded timed tests, stomach trouble in exam…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 2:286

Before adding more content, look at what the child has to receive it with: attention, memory for what was just said, language. Two children given the same lesson do not take away the same amount, and that difference is usually where the real gap sits.

It is tempting to answer a gap with better materials, since materials are the part that can be bought. But if a child cannot hold a sentence in mind…

Twenty minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 4:28

A child who cannot bear the noise, the lights and the scratchy jumper all day will be hard to be around by the afternoon. That child usually gets described as badly behaved rather than as overwhelmed.

Once a child is understood to be choosing it, everything that follows is punishment, the arousal climbs, and the sensory difficulty gets worse. That…

Twenty minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 49:11

When the sound scores and the movement scores are both near the floor, you are looking at more than a reading problem. That pattern needs specialist teaching rather than a general classroom programme with a bit more of it.

Naming things quickly, repeating made up words, working out an unfamiliar word: all at the bottom. Then coordination and handwriting down in the same…

Twenty minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 20:29

A child can be excellent at blending sounds you give them aloud and still not read a word on the page. Practising one part very hard does not mean the whole thing has arrived.

Where a child has had a lot of instruction in one subskill, that skill will test well while the actual job stays out of reach. So test the job itself…

Twenty minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 2:32

For a very able student, an average score can be the finding rather than proof there is nothing wrong. If everything else sits far above and the sound skills sit in the middle, the distance between them is the thing to report.

Services are usually decided by a cutoff, so the most able affected students go their whole school career without help while working several times as…

Twenty minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 80:12

You do not need to become a reading specialist to be useful in a school meeting. A few hours with the current material on how reading is learned will put you ahead of most of the room, and you can carry it in kindly rather than as a challenge.

Pick two or three good sources and actually read them: an introduction written for teachers, and one clear book on how reading develops. What you…

LongerReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 18:66

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.