Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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3 practicesWho it is written for
Theme · Staying regulated in conflict
What anger actually is 20The moment before you snap 19The fear underneath anger 18Choosing your response 14Equanimity and perspective 7When anger turns to harm 6Screens and attention 5Making it stick 4Staying regulated in conflict 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Cool the body first 2Question the thought 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Answering bids 2What you are actually defending 2Working with anger 2Getting assessed and diagnosed 1Affection and touch 1
Approach · Core
When · Under stress
Before you reply to something that stung, quietly rate how stirred up you are, one to ten.
Naming the number makes the feeling something you are watching, rather than something driving you.
Breathe out for longer than you breathe in, six slow times, before you answer.
A longer out-breath settles the body first, so your words come from a calmer place.
Give any reply to a difficult message a full hour before you send it.
An hour is usually enough for the sting to fade and your kinder, clearer self to return.
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