Practices

Before hammering out differences, start from common ground: what do we agree on, and what are our shared goals?

Name the agreement and the shared aim first. Building from what you have in common makes the rest easier.

Nurture a sense of we, not I: name what you share, your beliefs, goals, and the life you are building.

Seeing yourselves as a team, with shared values and aims, is a quiet strength in hard times.

Ask your spouse about a dream they hold for their life, and one small way you could back it.

Not a task for this week. A hope for their life. Knowing it, and helping toward it, joins two lives.

Take one concrete action this week toward a goal your spouse cares about.

Watch the kids so they can study. Make the call they dread. Move their dream one inch.

Talk with your spouse about what your roles at home mean to each of you, not just who does what.

Not a chore chart. What providing, nurturing, or protecting means to you underneath.

Name one goal you are building toward together, and say it out loud as ours.

The home, the children's upbringing, a habit of worship. Something you are making together.

Agree with your spouse on one value you want your home to stand for, and live it this week.

Generosity, honesty, patience, prayer. Pick one, name it, and let it show in the house.

Tell your children, or each other, one good part of your story of us.

How you met, a hard thing you got through, why you are proud of this we. Say it aloud.