Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
188 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme
Approach
Keep the smallest thing you said you would do for your spouse today.
The call, the errand, the small promise. Trust is built from tiny kept words.
Speak about the future today as we, not I, in one thing you mention to your spouse.
When we are older, the home we are making. Language that assumes a shared road ahead.
Pray for them, by name, for one thing they are quietly carrying.
To ask God for the very thing that weighs on them is one of the most intimate acts of love.
Two or three seconds is long enough to say the sentence that ends a job or a marriage. That is the whole reason such a small skill is worth this much practice.
The distance between what you can take back and what you cannot is very short. Most people already know their own worst line, the one that comes out…
Once it starts rolling, it gathers. A small exchange becomes a shouting match becomes something with consequences, and every step feels reasonable given the one before.
The cheapest place to stop is early, at the first sharp reply, long before you can see how far it has gone. Naming it out loud helps: "we are…
A face read quickly is a face read badly. Before you answer what you think you saw, allow that the flat look might be tiredness, or worry about something else entirely.
Faces get processed fast and with very little checking, which is why a neutral expression lands as contempt when you are already braced for it. If it…
By response rate, extended release stimulants are among the most effective medicines in psychiatry, and most people tolerate them well. That is worth hearing plainly, particularly from people who are not generally keen on medication.
What the long acting form buys you is coverage. A dose that has faded by four in the afternoon leaves the evening bare, and the evening is where home…
When your thinking comes back online mid-argument, say so and offer a restart. I could feel myself getting defensive and this is not helping either of us, shall we try that again?
Most people escalate sometimes. The skill worth having is not never starting but knowing how to get out once you have. Naming it yourself gives the…
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