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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
A small child works out how to feel about itself by looking at its parents' faces. If that face was missing, or busy, the looking does not stop, it just moves on to teachers, coaches, friends and strangers.
It is part of why being disrespected can feel so much larger than the moment deserves. Some of that old search is still running. The work is slow and…
Understanding an idea is not the same as being changed by it. The explaining is soil preparation, and the crop comes later.
Somebody can follow the whole argument about respect and self-acceptance, agree warmly with all of it, and lose their temper the same way that…
The thought that nobody at the party will want to talk to you is chemistry, not a report about the world. You do not have to disprove it. You only have to notice where it came from.
Arguing with an anxious thought while the alarm is still ringing is heavy work and it rarely goes well. Reclassifying it is lighter: this is what my…
Being told not to worry has never once stopped anybody worrying, including you. If a friend said it to you tomorrow you would carry straight on.
This is worth saying to a parent who feels they are failing at comforting their child. They are not bad at it. The words simply do not do that job…
Three moves, in this order: notice what is happening, settle the body, then put your attention somewhere useful. Short enough to remember when you are already going.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Elaborate plans fall apart at exactly the moment you need them, so it is worth having something this small. Notice covers naming it as anxiety rather…