Practices

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How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · When everything feels flat
Medication and how it works 132Your nervous system 85Systems for daily life 80Get started 68Food, caffeine and fuel 53Your sense of time 52The moment before you snap 49Moving your body 48What anger actually is 48Choosing your response 45Bringing the future closer 45Exercise, food and other supports 41Equanimity and perspective 36Screens and attention 35Grounding and settling 33What ADHD actually is 33Touch and bodywork 31The fear underneath anger 31Practising under provocation 30Getting assessed and diagnosed 30Growing empathy 28Treatment and medication 28Feelings and focus 28When everything feels flat 27Structure and routine 27Being seen and judged 24Breathing 23Cool the body first 23Shame and stigma 22Making it stick 21Knowing your partner 20Remembering to do it 20Treatment and medication 18What worry does 17When you use something to cope 17Shared spiritual life 16Feeling from the inside 15Breaking the worry loop 15Fondness and admiration 14Facing it a step at a time 13What you are actually defending 13Answering bids 12Staying regulated in conflict 11Tolerate distress 11Righteous anger and perfectionism 10Obsessions and compulsions 10Listening and understanding 10Gratitude 9Posture and how you carry yourself 9Use your strengths 8Self-compassion 8Emotions as signals 8Affection and touch 7Rituals of connection 7Anger, alcohol and the body 6Question the thought 6Rebuilding trust 5Shame 5Living with uncertainty 3Your worth is not conditional 3Rest and pacing 3Repair after rupture 3When you go numb 3Notice the pattern and flex 3The cost of avoiding 3Face it gently 2Act on your values 2Find meaning 2When anger turns to harm 2Work with your brain 2Keep the bond 2Meaning after harm 2Get it out of your head 2Your window of tolerance 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Safety and grounding 1Panic and the body 1Listen to the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1
When · Any ordinary day

You can say what an SSRI does in one sentence. It blocks the doorway that carries serotonin back out of the gap between two nerve cells, so more of it stays there for longer and is likelier to be picked up.

Worth being able to say plainly, because most people are carrying something vaguer and more frightening than that. It also sets a fair expectation.…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 8:24

The blockade is partial. Serotonin is not trapped in there forever: enzymes still break it down and the transporters that are not blocked carry on working.

That matters for accuracy and it matters for reassurance, because people do picture something flooding and stuck. It also explains why serotonin…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:1

Serotonin syndrome comes from stacking, and the second agent is usually something nobody thought to mention: a migraine tablet, a cough medicine, a herbal remedy for low mood.

Triptans, tramadol, dextromethorphan, linezolid and St John's wort all count, as do other antidepressants. Someone who mentions in passing that they…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:87

When someone says they react badly to normal doses of almost everything, take it as information about their body rather than as a personality trait.

Bodies differ in how fast they break a medicine down. Give two people the same dose and one of them may be holding far more of it for far longer,…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:7

Whether a medicine works can turn on something as ordinary as taking it with food or moving it to bedtime.

Vilazodone is the clear case. On an empty stomach a good deal less of it is absorbed, and the nausea it can cause is easier to sit with overnight…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

The same medicine can be dangerous given one way and safe given another. Slow release is not a marketing word.

Bupropion was pulled from the market over seizures and came back once a slow release form existed, because what drove the risk was the sharp peak…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:110

The chemistry story runs backwards from how it is usually told. Nobody found a low chemical and then built a drug. They noticed what certain drugs did to mood and reasoned back to what must have been missing.

Reserpine emptied out the monoamines and people became depressed. Iproniazid and imipramine raised them and mood lifted. Out of that came the account…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Depression is not one thing with one address. Fatigue, blank concentration, lost libido and the loss of pleasure do not all come from the same place, so it helps to name which one you most want moved.

This is why two people with the same diagnosis get offered different tablets. A flat, pleasureless presentation points one way, a fatigued and achey…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

Nearly all of them do the one thing: keep a monoamine hanging about in the synapse for longer. So when you hear that some other tablet is stronger, be a little sceptical.

Head to head, the differences in how much they lift mood are modest. Where they really differ is in everything else they do to you, and in how well…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 15:88

SSRIs became the default for four reasons, and being more effective is not among them. They are easier to tolerate, taken once a day, far safer in overdose, and cheap as generics.

Tricyclics match them for lifting mood and are dangerous in overdose because of what they do to the heart. MAOIs carry food and drug interactions…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

The standing side-effect list is sexual difficulty, less appetite, an unsettled stomach, disturbed sleep and headache. Sexual side effects are common, and almost nobody raises them unprompted.

So ask directly, and ask about sleep while you are there. People do not usually announce these things. They quietly stop taking the tablet and say…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 6:125

A genetic test can tell you how quickly your body clears a medicine. It cannot tell you whether that medicine will lift your mood, and it helps to keep those two questions apart.

Where these panels earn their place is in dosing and tolerability. Someone who breaks a drug down slowly may need less of it, and someone who clears…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

No option comes without a cost. The useful question is not which medicine has side effects, it is which side effects you could live with.

One drug may unsettle your stomach for a fortnight and leave your sex life alone. Another may be kind to the stomach and flatten desire for as long…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:5

If the worst part of low mood is that your thinking has gone foggy, say so specifically. Concentration can be treated as a target of its own rather than as something that will tidy itself up later.

Depression and attention problems overlap enough that the fog often gets filed under whichever label arrived first. Naming it separately gives you…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 6:125

Heaviness in the body, aching, and a tiredness that sleep does not touch are part of low mood. They are not a separate complaint to raise another time.

There is a group of antidepressants that add a second action aimed partly at these bodily symptoms, which is one reason a prescriber may lean that…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 41:39

Before deciding a medicine did not work, check that it was taken at a dose and for a length of time that could have worked.

Venlafaxine is the standard example. At low doses it behaves much like a plain SSRI, and the second mechanism people choose it for only comes in…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:87

A newer version of a familiar medicine is usually a tidier version rather than a leap, and tidier is still worth something.

Desvenlafaxine is venlafaxine after the liver has done its work, given directly. The point of that is fewer differences between people who process…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 93:11

If pain is part of what you are carrying, bring it into the same conversation as the low mood. They are not two separate appointments.

The pathways that dampen pain and the ones involved in mood overlap, and one of the antidepressants is licensed for nerve pain and long term…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 9:118

Sometimes what is most missing is not mood but drive: the flat, cannot get started feeling. That can be named as the target in its own right.

Antidepressants lean in different directions, and one or two are weighted more towards the system carrying energy and alertness than towards…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 30:50

Most antidepressants share a family resemblance. Bupropion does not, so much of what you have read about the others simply does not apply to it.

It works on the systems carrying drive and alertness rather than on serotonin, which is why its effects, wanted and unwanted, sit at an angle to the…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

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