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How long you have · A minute
A minute 7Five minutes 35Twenty minutes 8
Who it is written for · Me
A practitioner 11Me 7Someone I care about 1
Where you are right now
Struggling right now 4Coping, mostly 3
On your own, or with someone
On my own 3Both of us together 3Involves someone else 1
Theme · Getting assessed and diagnosed
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 33What anger actually is 25Your nervous system 24Grounding and settling 24Medication and how it works 23Bringing the future closer 22Systems for daily life 22Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 21Get started 20Equanimity and perspective 17Your sense of time 15Fondness and admiration 15Affection and touch 14Knowing your partner 14Practising under provocation 14Treatment and medication 14Growing empathy 13Making it stick 13Repair after rupture 13Touch and bodywork 12Structure and routine 12Feelings and focus 12Food, caffeine and fuel 11Gratitude 9Breathing 9Listening and understanding 8When everything feels flat 8Exercise, food and other supports 8Being seen and judged 8Remembering to do it 7What ADHD actually is 7Moving your body 7Tolerate distress 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Shared spiritual life 6What worry does 6What you are actually defending 6Rituals of connection 6Treatment and medication 6Rebuilding trust 5Screens and attention 5Shame and stigma 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Feeling from the inside 4Question the thought 4Self-compassion 4Emotions as signals 3Safety and grounding 3Name what you feel 3Ride the urge 2Facing it a step at a time 2Notice the pattern and flex 2When you use something to cope 2Meaning after harm 2Calm the body 2The cost of avoiding 2Shame 2Working with anger 2Breaking the worry loop 2Your worth is not conditional 2Patience and trust 2Let the wave come 2Hold a boundary 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Validate yourself and others 2Anger, alcohol and the body 1Rest and pacing 1Panic and the body 1When you go numb 1Your window of tolerance 1Listen to the body 1Keep the bond 1Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1Act on your values 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Care for yourself in loss 1Ask and say no well 1
When
Any ordinary day 4Coming and going 2Under stress 1

If you are being assessed for attention, say something about your mood and your worry as well, even if nobody asks.

Anxiety and low mood sit alongside ADHD often enough that a thorough assessment will go looking for them anyway. But shame is quiet, and years of…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 40:60

When someone says they feel restless inside, ask what the restlessness wants. Restless to move, or restless to do one particular thing until it feels right?

The two feel similar from the inside and point in different directions. With ADHD it is usually undirected: the legs go, the chair is wrong, you need…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 91:8

If someone was adopted, or simply does not know their family history, say early and plainly that this is not a problem. It helps to have and it is not needed.

Otherwise the question lands as one more reminder of what is missing, and some people will spend the rest of the appointment feeling they brought the…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

Some of what looks like muddle is the system's fault. Our tenth month is named for eight, because two months were added later and nobody renamed the rest.

Worth saying to anyone who feels stupid about dates and forms. A calendar whose numbers are out of step, a tax year starting in April, forms asking…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 20:26

When someone says their heart races on their medication, ask whether it ever did before they started. It is the cheapest question you have and it usually sorts the answer out.

Go looking for the old settings: waiting to be called on in class, standing outside a room before a difficult conversation, three in the morning with…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 2:32

One man put his lamps on a timer so the room would go dark at eleven and send him to bed. It worked for a few nights. Then he simply carried on in the dark. A cue can tell you the time. It cannot make you stand up.

Worth remembering before you build anything clever. If the pull of whatever a person is already doing is stronger than the nudge you have designed,…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 96:5

'I set a reminder and still did not do it' is not a story about a bad reminder. It tells you the missing piece was never information, and a bigger, louder version of the same thing will fail in the same way.

The reflex is to escalate: three alarms, a different app, an entire new system built on Sunday night. What is needed is a change of kind, something…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 17:36

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