Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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8 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · When everything feels flat
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 33What anger actually is 25Your nervous system 24Grounding and settling 24Medication and how it works 23Bringing the future closer 22Systems for daily life 22Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 21Get started 20Equanimity and perspective 17Your sense of time 15Fondness and admiration 15Affection and touch 14Knowing your partner 14Practising under provocation 14Treatment and medication 14Growing empathy 13Making it stick 13Repair after rupture 13Touch and bodywork 12Structure and routine 12Feelings and focus 12Food, caffeine and fuel 11Gratitude 9Breathing 9Listening and understanding 8When everything feels flat 8Exercise, food and other supports 8Being seen and judged 8Remembering to do it 7What ADHD actually is 7Moving your body 7Tolerate distress 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Shared spiritual life 6What worry does 6What you are actually defending 6Rituals of connection 6Treatment and medication 6Rebuilding trust 5Screens and attention 5Shame and stigma 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Feeling from the inside 4Question the thought 4Self-compassion 4Emotions as signals 3Safety and grounding 3Name what you feel 3Ride the urge 2Facing it a step at a time 2Notice the pattern and flex 2When you use something to cope 2Meaning after harm 2Calm the body 2The cost of avoiding 2Shame 2Working with anger 2Breaking the worry loop 2Your worth is not conditional 2Patience and trust 2Let the wave come 2Hold a boundary 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Validate yourself and others 2Anger, alcohol and the body 1Rest and pacing 1Panic and the body 1When you go numb 1Your window of tolerance 1Listen to the body 1Keep the bond 1Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1Act on your values 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Care for yourself in loss 1Ask and say no well 1
Approach
When

You can say what an SSRI does in one sentence. It blocks the doorway that carries serotonin back out of the gap between two nerve cells, so more of it stays there for longer and is likelier to be picked up.

Worth being able to say plainly, because most people are carrying something vaguer and more frightening than that. It also sets a fair expectation.…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 8:24

The blockade is partial. Serotonin is not trapped in there forever: enzymes still break it down and the transporters that are not blocked carry on working.

That matters for accuracy and it matters for reassurance, because people do picture something flooding and stuck. It also explains why serotonin…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:1

Serotonin syndrome comes from stacking, and the second agent is usually something nobody thought to mention: a migraine tablet, a cough medicine, a herbal remedy for low mood.

Triptans, tramadol, dextromethorphan, linezolid and St John's wort all count, as do other antidepressants. Someone who mentions in passing that they…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:87

When someone says they react badly to normal doses of almost everything, take it as information about their body rather than as a personality trait.

Bodies differ in how fast they break a medicine down. Give two people the same dose and one of them may be holding far more of it for far longer,…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:7

Whether a medicine works can turn on something as ordinary as taking it with food or moving it to bedtime.

Vilazodone is the clear case. On an empty stomach a good deal less of it is absorbed, and the nausea it can cause is easier to sit with overnight…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

If a medicine leaves you wired, restless or with a pulse that will not settle, report it rather than tolerating it quietly.

The antidepressants that act on noradrenaline as well as serotonin can raise blood pressure and put nerves on edge, and with some of them that grows…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

The same medicine can be dangerous given one way and safe given another. Slow release is not a marketing word.

Bupropion was pulled from the market over seizures and came back once a slow release form existed, because what drove the risk was the sharp peak…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:110

Try putting a sentence between you and the mood: this is what my brain is doing right now. It does not make me a bad person, and it does not mean I cannot cope. It just feels that way today.

Low mood does not arrive labelled as a mood. It arrives as facts about you, that you are useless, that nobody wants you around, and it is very hard…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 93:3

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