Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Moving your body
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 33What anger actually is 25Grounding and settling 24Your nervous system 24Medication and how it works 23Bringing the future closer 22Answering bids 22Systems for daily life 22The fear underneath anger 21Get started 20Equanimity and perspective 17Your sense of time 15Fondness and admiration 15Knowing your partner 14Practising under provocation 14Treatment and medication 14Affection and touch 14Making it stick 13Repair after rupture 13Growing empathy 13Feelings and focus 12Structure and routine 12Touch and bodywork 12Food, caffeine and fuel 11Gratitude 9Breathing 9Exercise, food and other supports 8Listening and understanding 8When everything feels flat 8Being seen and judged 8Remembering to do it 7What ADHD actually is 7Moving your body 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Tolerate distress 7Shared spiritual life 6What worry does 6What you are actually defending 6Rituals of connection 6Treatment and medication 6Screens and attention 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Rebuilding trust 5Shame and stigma 5Feeling from the inside 4Question the thought 4Self-compassion 4Name what you feel 3Safety and grounding 3Emotions as signals 3Ride the urge 2Facing it a step at a time 2Notice the pattern and flex 2When you use something to cope 2Calm the body 2The cost of avoiding 2Working with anger 2Shame 2Breaking the worry loop 2Your worth is not conditional 2Meaning after harm 2Patience and trust 2Let the wave come 2Hold a boundary 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Validate yourself and others 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Anger, alcohol and the body 1Rest and pacing 1Panic and the body 1When you go numb 1Your window of tolerance 1Listen to the body 1Keep the bond 1Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1Act on your values 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Care for yourself in loss 1Ask and say no well 1
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When

If the word exercise makes you flinch, drop it. Say moving about, or getting out, and see whether a plan turns up.

For a lot of people that word carries school changing rooms and years of not keeping things up. Swap it and the list of things that count grows:…

A minuteMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:53

Missing a day is not the end of the programme. You missed a day. Tomorrow you carry on.

The dangerous part is not the missed session, it is the story that follows it, the one where you have blown it so you may as well stop altogether.…

A minuteMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 30:54

When you reach a goal, stop and let yourself register it before moving on to the next one. Otherwise you collect achievements and never feel any of them.

The pause can be tiny. Say out loud what you did, tell someone, sit with it for a minute, thank God for it. Racing straight on to the next target…

A minuteMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 28:24

Use a timer you can see rather than a warning you have to remember. A dial that shrinks, or a light that goes from green to red, does the work that five more minutes never quite does.

Time is not something everyone feels passing. Turning it into something you can look at moves the job from guessing to seeing, which is much easier.…

A minuteMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:47

One minute of moving between tasks. Star jumps, a lap of the corridor, anything that gets the blood going before you sit down to the next thing.

Classrooms that do this report smoother changeovers and better recall of whatever was just taught. The same trick works at a desk: end one job, move…

A minuteMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 32:9

A silent room is not restful for everybody. If every cough and creaking knee pulls at you, ask for music or bring headphones with something plain in them.

Too little going on can be as unsettling as too much. A low steady sound covers the sudden little noises that keep snagging your attention. Some…

A minuteMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 32:9

Notice one thing your body is telling you right now. Thirsty, needing the loo, shoulders up somewhere near your ears. That noticing is a skill and it does come back with use.

Long stretches of stress teach you to override the body's signals until you stop hearing them at all. Then hunger, tiredness and the early edge of…

A minuteMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 32:9

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.