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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have · A minute
A minute 6Five minutes 4Twenty minutes 7
Who it is written for · Me
My husband or wife 6Me 6
On your own, or with someone
On my own 5Involves someone else 1
Theme · Shared spiritual life
Staying regulated in conflict 46The moment before you snap 39Choosing your response 36Cool the body first 33What anger actually is 25Grounding and settling 24Your nervous system 24Medication and how it works 23Bringing the future closer 22Systems for daily life 22Answering bids 22The fear underneath anger 21Get started 20Equanimity and perspective 17Fondness and admiration 15Your sense of time 15Treatment and medication 14Knowing your partner 14Practising under provocation 14Affection and touch 14Repair after rupture 13Making it stick 13Growing empathy 13Feelings and focus 12Touch and bodywork 12Structure and routine 12Food, caffeine and fuel 11Gratitude 9Breathing 9When everything feels flat 8Being seen and judged 8Exercise, food and other supports 8Listening and understanding 8Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Tolerate distress 7Remembering to do it 7What ADHD actually is 7Moving your body 7What worry does 6Shared spiritual life 6Rituals of connection 6Treatment and medication 6What you are actually defending 6Posture and how you carry yourself 5Rebuilding trust 5Screens and attention 5Shame and stigma 5Feeling from the inside 4Question the thought 4Self-compassion 4Name what you feel 3Safety and grounding 3Emotions as signals 3Ride the urge 2Patience and trust 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Validate yourself and others 2Breaking the worry loop 2Shame 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Meaning after harm 2Let the wave come 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Hold a boundary 2Facing it a step at a time 2When you use something to cope 2Calm the body 2The cost of avoiding 2Care for yourself in loss 1Help someone grieving 1Get it out of your head 1Act on your values 1Ask and say no well 1When you go numb 1Face it gently 1Listen to the body 1Letting it out safely 1Your window of tolerance 1Rest and pacing 1Panic and the body 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Keep the bond 1
Approach
Gottman 3Emotionally focused 2Core 1
When
Any ordinary day 5Under stress 1

Encourage one thing your spouse wants to try, and tell them you have got their back.

Go, I am here if it wobbles. A secure base is what lets someone venture out bravely.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 5:2

When something hard lands, say it out loud: we will face this together.

Turn a my problem into an ours. Facing it as a team halves its weight.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:71

In one decision this week, ask what is best for us, not only what is best for me.

The small choices reveal the we. Let one lean toward the partnership over the self.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 9:71

Keep the smallest thing you said you would do for your spouse today.

The call, the errand, the small promise. Trust is built from tiny kept words.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 23:8

Speak about the future today as we, not I, in one thing you mention to your spouse.

When we are older, the home we are making. Language that assumes a shared road ahead.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 25:74

Pray for them, by name, for one thing they are quietly carrying.

To ask God for the very thing that weighs on them is one of the most intimate acts of love.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

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