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Area
Focus, starting, and ADHD 485Anger 345Your marriage 224Your body 211Low mood and hard feelings 77Worry and anxiety 73After harm 17Grief and loss 13Yourself and your limits 12
How long you have
A minute 504Five minutes 674Twenty minutes 218Longer 61
Who it is written for · Me
Me 1457A practitioner 1384Someone I care about 874My husband or wife 312
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Coping, mostly 1457Struggling right now 670Getting ready for something 328
On your own, or with someone
On my own 1094Involves someone else 282Both of us together 81
Theme
Medication and how it works 91Staying regulated in conflict 60Systems for daily life 60Your nervous system 54What anger actually is 50Get started 47Equanimity and perspective 44Choosing your response 44The moment before you snap 43Moving your body 42Bringing the future closer 41The fear underneath anger 39Your sense of time 34Feelings and focus 32Touch and bodywork 31Exercise, food and other supports 28Growing empathy 26Getting assessed and diagnosed 25Knowing your partner 25When everything feels flat 24Food, caffeine and fuel 24Grounding and settling 24Answering bids 24Treatment and medication 22Practising under provocation 22What ADHD actually is 20Screens and attention 20Repair after rupture 19Cool the body first 19What you are actually defending 19Structure and routine 19Being seen and judged 18Breathing 18Making it stick 18Rebuilding trust 17Shared spiritual life 17Treatment and medication 15What worry does 15Affection and touch 15Fondness and admiration 15Emotions as signals 14Remembering to do it 13Rituals of connection 13Listening and understanding 13Breaking the worry loop 13Feeling from the inside 12Shame and stigma 12Righteous anger and perfectionism 12When you use something to cope 9Gratitude 9Tolerate distress 9Use your strengths 8Self-compassion 8Anger, alcohol and the body 6Facing it a step at a time 6Question the thought 5Meaning after harm 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Safety and grounding 4When anger turns to harm 3Working with anger 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Name what you feel 3Let the wave come 3Act on your values 3Calm the body 3Your worth is not conditional 3Obsessions and compulsions 2Face it gently 2Ask and say no well 2Ride the urge 2Rest and pacing 2Patience and trust 2Care for yourself in loss 2Work with your brain 2Validate yourself and others 2Listen to the body 2The cost of avoiding 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Help someone grieving 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Your window of tolerance 2When you go numb 1Living with uncertainty 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Panic and the body 1Shame 1
Approach
ADHD skills 328Medical and treatment 269Core 255Body based 152Gottman 108Mindfulness 102CBT 98Emotionally focused 79DBT skills 26Trauma informed 20Grief 13Narrative 7
When
Any ordinary day 1083Under stress 199After a row 115In a change 30Coming and going 20Something good 6When apart 4

A small job due tomorrow feels heavier than a big one due next week. Everyone works this way. It is simply stronger with ADHD, and it quietly wrecks any list ordered by importance.

Which is why ranking tasks by what matters most tends to fall apart by Tuesday. Your felt sense of weight is set by how near a thing is, so an…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 17:11

Fun things serve the present. Important things serve the future. Put like that, you can see why the advice to just do the important thing is asking rather a lot.

It asks you to act on the part of the picture you can least feel. So let the important thing serve the present a bit too: do it with someone, do it…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 103:1

The further off something sits, the less it weighs on today's decision. That is not a flaw in your reasoning. It is how the weighing works for everybody.

It also explains something that often gets read as dishonesty. The plan you made on Monday was sincere. By Thursday the reward for keeping it has…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 65:3

One more episode tonight is obviously worth it, and by eleven the next morning it obviously was not. Nothing changed except where you were standing in time.

Everyone recognises this, which makes it a good thing to notice rather than a private failing. The exchange rate flips overnight: tomorrow's…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 78:10

When a deadline or a reward sits a long way off, it can feel almost weightless, while the thing in front of you feels enormous. That is not you being shallow. It is a shortened view of time doing what it does.

You can notice it in the gap between what you know and what you feel. You know the report matters more than the tidying, it just does not feel that…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 59:18

How long will this take is really several questions at once. There is the doing, and there is finding everything you need before you can start, and the second one is usually missing from the guess.

Next time you estimate something, split it out loud: how long to gather what I need, how long to actually do it, how long to put it all away again.…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 65:3

Think of the small repair job that swallows an hour because the right screw is not in the drawer. That hour was always part of the job. It just was not part of the picture in your head.

The same thing happens with paperwork, only less visibly: the ten minute form needs a reference number that lives in an email you cannot find. When…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 6:96

The more you have to look up before you can begin, the further the real time drifts from your guess. Every search is also a door left open, and some of them lead somewhere else entirely.

Booking a trip is the clearest case: one question about dates becomes four tabs and an hour gone. A decent defence is to do the looking up as its own…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 18:19

Nobody works five hours straight. If your estimate assumes you will, then the shortfall gets read as you being slow rather than as the estimate being wrong.

For anything long, put the breaks into the number before you start. Say four hours of work plus the standing up, the kettle, the two interruptions,…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 40:61

If an hour of real work reliably eats two hours of clock, book two. You do not have to become a better estimator to end up with a schedule that works.

Take a fortnight of honest evidence and work out your own number. Some people run at one and a half, some nearer three, and it shifts with the type…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 36:38

Set the limit while you are calm and let the device hold it. A computer that shuts itself down at half past ten is arguing with nobody, which is why it wins.

Screens, browser blockers, a plug timer on the television: pick whichever you will not immediately undo. The point is to move the decision away from…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 17:78

People put the meeting in the diary and not the shower, the finding of the keys or the twenty minutes on the bus. The event gets planned as though standing up puts you in the room.

Give preparation and travel their own lines in the calendar, with their own start times. If the meeting is at two and it takes half an hour to get…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 65:3

If the test is on Friday and it is Monday, Friday is doing almost no work. Put something today on the end of today's revision, however small.

This is not spoiling a child. It is matching the reward to the timescale they can actually feel, which is roughly the one they are living in. Half an…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 78:11

Part of what keeps the late start going is that it has genuinely worked. You have produced something good in one long night before, and you remember it clearly.

So telling you that leaving it late is a bad plan tends to fail, because you have evidence and the other person does not. The honest version is…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 18:23

The dreaming is not the problem. It is that bills, forms and renewal dates are dull enough to stop registering at all, and those are the things that actually damage a life.

People who are managing well in every visible way still get brought down by a lapsed policy or an unopened letter from the council. Trying to care…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 78:11

When someone reminds you often enough, things do get done. But the sense of time doing the work is theirs, which is why it all collapses the moment they stop.

Worth naming out loud in a household, because the reminding costs the relationship something and never builds the missing part. A better arrangement…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 103:3

You did not choose which things hurt you. Where you are tender was set long before you had any say in it, and the only live question is what you do with it now.

This is worth saying out loud between two people, because each usually thinks their own soft spot is embarrassing and the other's is obvious. Try…

Five minutesShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 30:54

ADD and ADHD are not two different things. ADD is the older public word for what is now called ADHD, inattentive type, and the quieter presentation is not a lighter version of it.

The mix up matters more than it sounds. Parents sometimes hear ADD and take it to mean something mild that will not need treatment, and school or…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 33:5

Manuals rename things. Paediatric bipolar became disruptive mood dysregulation disorder, whole categories were reshuffled to line up with the international classification, and none of it changed who anybody was.

If you have old paperwork carrying a label nobody uses now, that is bookkeeping rather than a hidden verdict on you. What is worth your attention is…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 17:84

Some people will not believe this exists whatever you show them. You are allowed to give a short honest answer and then let the conversation go.

Keep one or two plain facts ready for people who are genuinely curious, because that conversation is often worth having. It is a different…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 16:125

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