Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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4 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Who it is written for · Someone I care about
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Practising under provocation
When you catch yourself dodging, just note it. Telling yourself off adds shame to a moment that already had plenty going on.
There is a difference between seeing what you did and grading it. Seeing keeps it available as a choice next time, while grading makes you want to…
When something you thought in the moment actually worked, name it. A line you produced yourself is worth more than any phrase handed to you.
It might be as ordinary as noticing that this person does not know you, or that none of this will matter next week. Write it down while you still…
Before anyone does something exposing, let them check their own conditions and give them a clean way to say no. A public yes given under pressure is not really a yes.
It can be as ordinary as asking someone to consider whether they have the privacy, the time and the state of mind for this today. Ask it first and…
Be careful with the language about growing a thicker skin. Before anyone is asked to mind less, someone has to check that what they are minding really is only a slight.
Where the insults are discrimination, bullying or the run up to abuse, telling a person to toughen up is telling them to distrust an accurate reading…
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