Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
4 practicesWho it is written for · Someone I care about
Where you are right now · Getting ready for something
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Choosing your response
If you are on autopilot, the part of you that would notice is asleep as well. So do not count on waking yourself in the moment, arrange for something outside you to do the waking.
That might be a practice kept at fixed times, a phrase agreed with someone at home, a note left where you will genuinely see it, or a plain if this…
If you are helping someone set up a practice like this, ask them for ideas before you offer yours. Keep a few in your back pocket for when they run dry.
What people invent for themselves fits their actual life, and they are far more likely to do it. Have suggestions ready anyway, because a brainstorm…
Offer a practice as a question rather than an instruction. What do you think it would be like to wake yourself up once a day? That is a very different sentence from you should.
People argue with instructions, particularly people who were sent rather than came. A question leaves them to make the case, and the case they make…
Open with the difficulty instead of the accusation. "This is hard for me to say" and "I am worried you will not like this" buy you a hearing that "you always" never will.
Two things happen at once when you start this way. The other person stops preparing a defence, because nothing has been thrown at them yet. And you…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.