Practices

Somewhere between five and ten children in every hundred struggle to get to school at some point, and one or two of those need real help with it. Your family is not a strange case.

It feels rare because nobody mentions it at the school gate. In a school of a thousand that is a dozen or more children needing active support at any…

Anxiety is the most common mental health difficulty of childhood, with something like a third of young people meeting the threshold at some point and a smaller group badly held back by it. Both halves of that are worth saying.

The first half is for the shame: this is ordinary, and keeping it secret is its own kind of avoiding. The second half is so that nobody hears…

The target is getting through the door, not feeling calm about it. Calm tends to arrive afterwards, and mostly for people who went.

It is tempting to wait for a good week, a settled mood, a morning that feels different. Waiting hands the decision to the anxiety, and the anxiety…

Put it the way a grandmother would. Eat your peas and carrots and then you can have your pudding: go in, and then the thing you have been wanting.

Technical language falls out of your head at seven in the morning. A homely sentence survives, and it survives the argument too, because it is hard…

Parents keeping a pattern going are almost never doing it knowingly. Say so out loud, before you explain any of the rest.

A parent who hears that their comfort has been part of the problem will either argue or quietly stop coming, and both of those cost the child far…