Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Theme · Treatment and medication
Medication and how it works 148Systems for daily life 90Your nervous system 87Get started 69Getting assessed and diagnosed 64Your sense of time 58What anger actually is 58Moving your body 56Exercise, food and other supports 55Food, caffeine and fuel 53The moment before you snap 49Treatment and medication 48What ADHD actually is 48Bringing the future closer 46Choosing your response 45Screens and attention 44Touch and bodywork 38Equanimity and perspective 37When everything feels flat 34Grounding and settling 34Structure and routine 33Feelings and focus 32The fear underneath anger 31Reading, numbers and learning differences 31Practising under provocation 30Growing empathy 29What worry does 26Shame and stigma 25Cool the body first 25The cost of avoiding 24Being seen and judged 24Breathing 24Making it stick 24Treatment and medication 23Remembering to do it 20Knowing your partner 20When you use something to cope 19Breaking the worry loop 16Shared spiritual life 16Feeling from the inside 16Facing it a step at a time 16Fondness and admiration 14What you are actually defending 14Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Obsessions and compulsions 13Emotions as signals 13Answering bids 12Tolerate distress 12Staying regulated in conflict 11Listening and understanding 10Posture and how you carry yourself 9Gratitude 9Use your strengths 8Self-compassion 8Affection and touch 7Shame 7Rituals of connection 7Question the thought 6Anger, alcohol and the body 6When anger turns to harm 6Rebuilding trust 5When you go numb 3Your worth is not conditional 3Repair after rupture 3Rest and pacing 3Panic and the body 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Living with uncertainty 3Work with your brain 2Face it gently 2Act on your values 2Keep the bond 2Meaning after harm 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Your window of tolerance 1Care for yourself in loss 1Safety and grounding 1Listen to the body 1
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When · Any ordinary day

A lot of what people now know about ADHD came from a video. Some of it is genuinely good, some of it is not, and asking someone what they have been watching is a fair question to open with.

Creators who live with ADHD have done real good here. They have made people feel recognised and made asking for help less frightening, and some…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 21:7

ADHD is managed rather than cured, across a whole life. Anything advertising a cure is telling you it is not working from the evidence.

Managed sounds like a disappointment until you look at what it means in practice: treatment that fits your life now, adjusted when the life changes,…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:286

Most children with ADHD can tell you exactly what they should have done. The knowing was never the missing piece, which is why a course teaching the knowing changes so little.

Watch closely and you see the skill appear in quiet moments and vanish in loud ones, when another child has already grabbed the ball and there is…

A minuteTreatment and medicationCoreQur’an 9:105

If mindfulness is going to help with ADHD, the version with a chance is small and spread out. A few seconds of noticing, several times a day, rather than one long sitting you come to dread.

A forty five minute block asks you to get settled in one place and then somehow carry that into the afternoon, and the carrying is exactly what tends…

A minuteTreatment and medicationCBTQur’an 22:78

By response rate, extended release stimulants are among the most effective medicines in psychiatry, and most people tolerate them well. That is worth hearing plainly, particularly from people who are not generally keen on medication.

What the long acting form buys you is coverage. A dose that has faded by four in the afternoon leaves the evening bare, and the evening is where home…

A minuteTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 26:80

Better usually means smaller, rarer, or shorter. Pick something you can count, like losing your keys twice a week instead of every day.

Vague goals cannot be reviewed, so a few months later nobody can say whether anything changed and you are left going on mood alone. Choose two or…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:3

You are going to look things up anyway, so start somewhere with proper review behind it. CHADD and Understood both have professionals checking what goes on the page.

Telling anyone to stop searching online has never worked and only means they search without saying so. Better to hand over two or three places worth…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:43

Brain training and therapeutic games raise one question above all others. Does the improvement show up anywhere except inside the game, and does it last once you stop playing?

People do get better at what they practise, and the scores go up, which makes for a persuasive chart on a website. The harder question is whether…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:11

Supplements are not checked before they go on sale, so what is in the bottle may not match the label. Look for a third party mark such as USP or NSF before you buy.

This is not about whether a given supplement helps. It is about the plainer question of whether you are getting the dose written on the front, since…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:195

CBT has more research behind it than most other therapies, and part of that is because it is easy to count. Its steps and its outcomes can be scored, so it gets studied more often.

That is worth saying because a thin research base is not the same as a therapy that fails. Approaches that work through relationship, imagery or the…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 39:9

Two things happening together is not one causing the other. Learn that once and you have a reply to most of the claims you will meet.

Children with ADHD may use more screens, and screens may not be the reason. The same shape turns up with sugar, with additives, with organic food and…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:36

Long acting does not automatically suit everybody. Some people genuinely do better on shorter doses, and it is worth saying so rather than assuming the newer option must be right.

There is a folk belief that a person's own chemistry takes over in the afternoon once the medicine wears off, and the research does not support it.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 65:3

What a person expects from a treatment genuinely changes what they get from it. That is not a trick to be exploited, and it is not nothing either.

In some trials the dummy treatment helps around half the people who receive it, and there is work showing benefit even when people were told outright…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:57

The point of treatment is not a tidier score on a questionnaire. It is fewer accidents, a finished course, work that holds, relationships that survive, a longer and better life.

Symptoms are worth reducing because of what they do downstream, and that is where the goal should be set. It changes what you review, too. Instead of…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 9:105

After a working lifetime in this field, Barkley names the change in how a family sees the child as the most important step of all. Not the medication, not the charts.

The reason is practical rather than sentimental. Every other part of treatment asks parents to keep going for weeks with very little to show for it,…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 13:11

Being told ADHD is largely inherited can sound like being told nothing can be done. It does not follow, and the two questions are separate ones.

How much of something a person shows, day to day, moves a good deal with what is around them, even when the underlying trait is strongly heritable.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 12:87

A child can be almost trouble free with a grandparent who has all afternoon for them, and impossible in a class of twenty five. Same child, same condition, very different demand.

What a setting asks for is the ratio between the self control a person has to supply and the structure being supplied for them. One adult, close…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationADHD skillsQur’an 94:5

Untreated ADHD is not free. It turns up in appointments, in repeat trips to A and E, in school reports and in lost work, and the bill lands on the family either way.

So when the cost of treatment is the reason for waiting, it is worth adding up what is already going out, in money and in hours and in the things…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:28

Gathering disruptive children into one room to learn social skills leaves about a quarter of them worse than before. They pick things up from each other far faster than from the adult at the front.

This is not a reason to give up on helping a child socially. It is a reason to look hard at who else is in the group before you accept a place in it.…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationCoreQur’an 2:195

The warning about group social skills work is about loud, disruptive children. A quiet, anxious child who simply has not had much practice with other children is a different case, and a gentle group may be exactly right.

So the question is not whether groups work, but which child is sitting in front of you. If the difficulty really is inexperience, a group offers…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationCoreQur’an 49:6

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